Oct 232015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her Empowering Your Erection Program with Dr Martha Tara Lee on the Eros Evolution Radio Show.

I was honoured to be asked to appear on Dr Lee’s radio show to talk about my Empowering Your Erection digital program.

We had a great time chatting about sexuality in general and in particular, the connection between sexuality and spirituality. We talked about the importance of presence, breath and self-enquiry as paths to having expanded and deeper experiences of sex and sexuality.

Martha also asked me about why I created the Empowering Your Erection program and how a digital product can help men with erection issues. I talked her through the program and told her how each section is based on the private sessions I’ve offered to men over the last 10 years. Have a listen to find out more…

 

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Oct 122015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, wants to know what videos she can make to help you with your sexual growth and expansion.

Last week I posted a survey asking you how I could best serve your sexual growth. I was delighted to have 70 responses to the survey and have learned a lot about what you need and would like from me in the coming months. One of the things that really stood out was that a lot of people would like me to produce more videos. So here’s a little video I made to find out more about the videos you’d like to see.

I’d love to hear what you’d like from future videos, so please either comment in the comment space below the video on YouTube or email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com with your suggestions, thoughts and wishes. I can’t wait to hear from you!

P.S. The survey is still open if you would like to add your two cents worth! Click here to go to the survey…


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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Oct 062015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, asks how she can best serve your sexual growth and expansion?

So I know it’s only October, but I’m already thinking about how I can help you in 2016!

I’d love to create the perfect session, program or whatever else would help you to grow and expand your sexuality, to fully embrace and celebrate yourself as a magnificent sexual being.

I’m curious – what are your most urgent sexual issues and needs? What it is that you would like to learn or discover about your sexual self in the coming months and the new year?

To make it super easy for you, I’ve created a very short survey (only 6 questions!) and I would be immensely grateful if you’d pop over to it and fill it out.

You can can do the survey completely anonymously and you only have to answer the questions you wish to answer. Obviously the more you answer the better I can serve you.

It shouldn’t take more than 5 or 10 minutes of your time. You can complete it in the form below or on this page.

A million thank you’s and a big warm juicy hug coming at ya!

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Sep 212015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, announces her brand new Empowering Your Erection Program and explains why you should apply now!

Over the last 10 years I’ve had the joy and pleasure of working with at least 2000 men and their sexual issues. One of the most frequent things I’ve seen is men wanting to work with erection issues. Whether they’re experiencing full blown erectile dysfunction or just want to feel more confident with the erections they have, many men are looking for permission, liberation, healing and empowerment with their erections.

Earlier this year I released a digital, multimedia program, The Transform Your Sex Life Series – Empowering Your Erection (originally called Erectile Dysfunction) consisting of a 32 page eBook + 4 exclusive audios that men could download and do in the comfort of their own homes. This program aims to give you the power to heal, transform and empower your erection yourself with simple and very effective exercises based on the sessions I offer in person.

The digital program has received fantastic reviews and feedback and so far everyone that has used it (that has reported back) has felt huge benefits and improvements with their erections. Hurray! I’m absolutely over-the-moon thrilled about that!

Quite a few of the men who’ve used the digital program have asked if I would offer an in-person program to compliment the digital program. I thought that was a genius idea and so have created something really special as a response. The Empowering Your Erection Program is a bespoke program of in-person sessions, Skype sessions, email support and much more.

There are three different levels of exploration and support. You can choose from the 3 month Silver Program, the 6 month Gold program or the 9 month Platinum Program. Once you apply, you will be invited to a free 20 minute Skype chat so we can discuss your individual needs. Then I will create a bespoke Empowering Your Erection program just for YOU!

The beauty of this program is that it gives you the opportunity to fully commit to your personal sexual journey. You will be expertly guided and supported the whole way through. Working together over a period of time allows us to explore more deeply and really expand your possibilities for pleasure, intimacy and confidence with your erection.

If you’re ready to Empower Your Erection, boost your sexual confidence, learn techniques to last longer and have more pleasure then this program is for YOU! Apply now to transform your connection to your penis and your erection, to learn how to cultivate your sexual power and be the most confident, extraordinary and conscious sexual being you can be. ➞ Apply Now!

Find out more about The Empowering Your Erection Program here>>>>

P.S. As part of this program you will receive a complimentary copy of the digital Transform Your Sex Life Program – Empowering Your Erection. If you’ve already bought that program, I will reduct the price of it from this in-person program! ➞ Apply Now!


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Jul 312015
 

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex lifeRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ to help transform your sex life.

As you know, over the last few months, I’ve been experimenting with new things and new ways to help you embrace, celebrate and transform your sex life.

Often, as I move through my week, I get to read a lot of articles on the interwebs about sex and sexuality. Some are fantastic, some are not quite as good but still interesting, and some, well, are kind of rubbish.

I’m going to do a little experiment over the next three months of posting and sending you ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ – a collection of articles I’ve read, or at least scanned, that I think may have value for you.

I may or may not agree completely with each article, but if I feel it’s interesting, offers a unique point of view, is a bit of fun or would serve you to expand your sexuality in some way, then I’ll include it.

You can read all of them, some or none of them – whatever works for you! These are random and not in any particular order.

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex life

Here are this month’s ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ for you:

1. This was a really lovely article from a man who’s spent 26 years researching sex.

2. Wanna decorate your home with beautiful vulvas? Here are some suggestions for how to do just that.

3. Lovely article about how being trapped in the ‘man box’ can hold you back from being who you really are.

4. How to capture the energy of masturbating to power your USB devices! This article is particularly aimed at the energy you create when watching porn, but porn isn’t at all necessary to get the benefits of interesting contraption.

5. How technology is impacting our sex lives. Some interesting and some slightly disturbing points!

6. Ok, this article about the current state of affairs with porn was just too long, so I admit I didn’t read it all. I did scan through most of it. I liked the author’s final comment: ‘We should be worrying about the kind of society that would lead to the types of pornography we find distasteful in the first place – and work on fixing that society rather than blaming its inevitable result.’

7. Info about different sexual positions. Not the most important part of sexuality, but could be helpful for some.

8. Guys, the size of your penis really doesn’t matter! Here’s an article I found on the interwebs about that, and here’s an article I wrote about that recently.

9. The title of this one says it all, ‘Anal sex: What you need to know’. Slightly annoying format but good info.

10. Here are 50 suggestions for getting your erotic juices flowing.

11. Nice article about what ‘old people’ know about sex that you don’t.

12. One woman’s experience of rediscovering sex after divorce.

13. Good article about the various possibilities for sexual pleasure and orgasm that are open to men, but that many men don’t know about or cultivate. Here are two bonus articles about that, that I wrote a while ago – one is here, and the other is here.

14. Thoughts about things men do that turn women off in bed. Not a bad list, although, of course, some of these are subjective.

15. And while we’re at it, 3 things that men say bother them in bed.

16. Simple but sweet article about how to actually sleep better together.

17. And finally, here’s the most recent articles I’ve posted on my blog. They are free excerpts from my new multimedia solution for men with E.D.

Transform Your Sex Life – A Word About Erectile Dysfunction, Part 1 and Part 2

Transform Your Sex Life – Maintaining Your Erection For Life, Part 1 and Part 2.

Please let me know which articles you liked and what sort of things you’d like to see in next month’s list. If you enjoy receiving these lists after 3 months, I’ll carry on with them, otherwise we’ll just put it down to experience! I am here FOR YOU afterall!


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 292015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

 

 

Maintaining Your Erection For Life

Mental Health

So many factors can affect our mental health these days. Stress and worry about work, relationships, money, and of course, E.D. can really take a toll on our minds. Creating good practices for looking after your mental health will serve you well in all areas of your life, including your sex life.

Here are some ways to reduce mental stress:

  • Implement the suggestions above in the physical health section (see Part 1 here). They will also greatly help with mental health.
  • Get plenty of sleep and rest.
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal. Write down at least one thing you are grateful for each day. Gratitude puts your energy system into a state of high vibration, which is good for you on all levels. Feeling grateful can pull you out of a mental fog or bad mood. Finding even one thing you are grateful for each day can reduce stress and improve your mindset.
  • Find someone you can talk to. This could be a professional person, a good friend or relative.
  • Have a good laugh! Laughter is a great way to reduce stress and worry. Medically, laughter has been related to exercise, in that it releases feel-good chemicals in your body.

Emotional Health

Whatever society or family you’ve been born into, there’s a high chance that you were not taught how to feel your emotions or how to express them in safe and healthy ways. Quite often we are taught to ignore or suppress our emotions. This is not healthy and can sometimes cause illness.

Here are some ways to look after your emotional health:

  • Join a supportive men’s group. (If you’re in London, I recommend this one.)
  • Put on some music or a film that you know makes you feel emotional and allow yourself to have a damn good cry. Notice how good you feel afterwards.
  • When feelings come up that feel uncomfortable, see if you can relax, take some deep breaths and just allow yourself to feel whatever is there. It might help to allow your body to move as the feelings come up and out.
  • Have a good laugh – see above in the Mental Health section!
  • Get a pet! Studies show that people who have a pet at home have lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol and better overall health. Dogs in particular are known for being creatures of unconditional love and joy.

Spiritual Health

Spiritual health is a very individual thing. For some people it’s about feeling connected to Divine Intelligence, Source, the Universe, a higher knowing or greater good. For some people it’s about finding meaning and purpose in life. For others it’s about feeling compassion, love and joy in their lives. Often it is a blend of all or some of these things.

Here are some ways to nurture your spiritual health:

  • Learn meditation or attend a mindfulness class.
  • Spend some time out in nature – in a beautiful forest, by the sea, near mountains, whatever fills up your soul.
  • Figure out what makes your soul sing and do more of that.
  • Get creative – paint, draw, sing, write, dance, cook.
  • Volunteer somewhere that feels good to you.
  • Spend time enjoying a beautiful sunrise or sunset.
  • Learn how to play a musical instrument.
  • Let go of the past – it is no longer here. Be in the present moment.
  • Keep a gratitude journal.
  • Go on an adventure.
  • Travel to new places.
  • Step outside your comfort zone.
  • Do something kind or generous for another person.
  • Move your body! Dance, walk, go to an exercise class or whatever gets you moving.
  • Create a garden, grow your own plants or bring flowers into your home.
  • Have a big, deep belly laugh!
  • Notice beauty all around you.

Kiss your lover slowly, sensually, as if it was the first time. Allow yourself to feel really open, vulnerable and in love.

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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What people are saying about the Transform Your Sex Life Series:

‘Within two weeks of using Rebecca’s ebook I was able to have penetrative sex for the first time in my life – thank you so much Rebecca!!‘ Dan, 35

‘…the exercises are incredibly easy and empowering. Since starting, I’ve noticed two results – my erections are stronger, and an increase in the erotic “tingling” even when not erect.’ Kevin, 54

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Jul 222015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

 

Everyone’s experiences of E.D. will be different. Some men will notice improvements in their erection after doing [the exercises in the book] just once or twice. Most men will need to repeat the processes a few times.

It’s really important to support your healing journey in other ways too. Your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health are crucial to your overall sexual empowerment. Here are some ways you can support your health on these other levels. You’ll notice that many of the suggestions overlap and that’s because many of these suggestions are good for you on more than one level.

Physical Health

How you feel in your body and about your body have a huge impact on your ability to get and maintain your erection. If you feel lethargic, low on energy, bloated, uncomfortable in your body and so on, you might find it difficult to get or maintain your erection.

Here are some suggestions for looking after your physical health:

  1. Pay attention to what you eat

There is no one correct way to eat, regardless of what the latest diet trends might tell you. Everyone is different and different styles of eating work for different people. You probably already know what works for you and what doesn’t.

Start listening to your body. If you tune in and listen it will start to give you an indication of what it likes and can use in a healthy way, and what it doesn’t like and has difficulty processing. A really simple rule of thumb is to eat food that is as close to it’s natural state as possible and although it may sound boring, a balanced diet that considers moderation.

Healthy eating tips

  • Eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg.
  • Eat as organically as you can afford to.
  • Drink plenty of water. Again, the amount you need will depend on your lifestyle, but 2-3 litres a day is a good guideline.
  • TOP TIP – Cut out all processed foods and sugar! There’s just no arguing that processed foods and sugar are not good for your health. High amounts of sugar and salt are often hidden in processed foods. Cutting these out will make an enormous difference to your overall health, including your sexual health.
  1. Get some exercise

I used to get fed up of ‘healthy types’ spouting on about exercise. It made the rebel in me want to sit on the sofa even more. However, after an illness that kicked my butt, it was actually exercise that helped me get on the road to recovery on all levels. Guess those ‘healthy types’ were right.

Amongst other things, regular exercise helps keep the body’s systems regulated. I can’t overemphasize how important exercise is to your overall health, including your sexual health. Recent studies have shown that just a few minutes of exercise a day can help with all kinds of complaints such as backache and headaches as well as depression, low energy and much more.

Benefits of regular exercise, especially for E.D. includes:

  • Getting more blood flow around the body, including to the genitals
  • Getting more oxygen and nutrients flowing around the body, including to the
  • Clearing toxins and waste more effectively from tissues and cells
  • Boosts the immune system and metabolism
  • Building healthy muscle and losing unhealthy fat
  • More energy and stamina
  • Mental clarity and focus
  • Much more relaxed in hips and joints
  • General better health overall

The best thing for keeping up with regular exercise is to find two or three things that you enjoy and change them up to keep you motivated.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Go for a 10-minute walk once a day. Each week add 5 more minutes to your walk. You could walk around the block or go to a local park or track. Whatever helps motivate you! This one thing alone can change your life.
  • Get an exercise DVD that you can do in the privacy of your own home.
  • Join a gym and learn how to use the machines or weights
  • Find a weekend sports team to join – football, basketball, hockey – whatever sounds like fun!
  • Find a partner and play racquetball, tennis or other partnered sports you like.
  • Go to a yoga or Pilates class. These are excellent for keeping your body strong and supple.
  • Go dancing or take a dance class.
  • If you sit at a desk for work, get up and stretch or move around for 5-10 minutes in every hour.
  1. Other important tips for physical health
  • Reduce your caffeine intake. There have been articles circulating recently saying that two cups of coffee a day could help with E.D. Personally I think that’s a really bad idea. While that much caffeine might help you in the short term, in the long term it could have major drawbacks to your health.
  • Reduce your alcohol intake. This will not only help you with your overall health and E.D., but will also help to enhance intimacy and pleasure.

Stop smoking. Seriously. It has been well documented that men who smoke have a higher risk of E.D. Smoking greatly reduces the circulation to your genitals and you need that blood and oxygen flow to help you get an erection. Even as few as one or two cigarettes a day can reduce your chances of getting a good erection.

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 152015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

When we don’t see the signs or listen our intuition, then our bodies will start to send signals such as an ache here or a pain there. If we continue not to listen then the body will escalate its attempt to get our attention – a pulled muscle, a back spasm, or a bigger injury, for example. If we still don’t listen the messages get louder and louder. This can result in bigger, more noticeable health issues or illnesses such as ‘dysfunctions’ of the body, cancer, adrenal exhaustion, etc.

Erectile dysfunction might be the first signal your body has sent you or part of a chain of ‘messages’ that started somewhere else in your body. When you start to pay attention to the signals your body is sending you, and see what they are trying to tell you, then you can bring healing and transformation to the situation.

E.D. could be a sign of

  • Shame or fear around sexuality (that was there before the E.D.)
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of being vulnerable
  • Fear of penetration
  • Shame passed down from the family around sexuality
  • Shame passed down from religion, the media and other outside authorities
  • Fear and shame of expressing your sexuality in a particular way
  • Fear of getting your partner pregnant
  • Shame and guilt around wanting to penetrate
  • Shame and guilt around not wanting to penetrate
  • Shame around wanting to be penetrated
  • Having been told you’re not good enough – and believing it or taking the message in to your body
  • Having received negative messages about your body or your penis
  • Fear of failure
  • Shock or trauma to the body
  • Excessive masturbation
  • Over use of porn
  • Worry or concern around sexual ‘performance’
  • Having had your boundaries crossed – sexually or otherwise
  • Feeling disempowered in your life generally
  • Feeling bored or ‘not aroused’ by life
  • Not being fully present in the moment
  • Being stuck in your head
  • Being exhausted
  • Being focussed on other things
  • Not feeling at ease in your body or with your penis
  • Gender issues

One or more of these things might apply to you. Or you might have your own unique reasons for experiencing E.D. The very good news is that healing and transformation are absolutely possible.

For many men this will mean being able to get some or all of your erection back. For some men it will mean learning how to be a magnificent lover whether you have a hard-on or not. Although society would tell you otherwise, it is not essential to have an erection to have amazing sex. Just taking the pressure off your cock to ‘perform’ and learning more about being an amazing lover will help!

The Transform Your Sex Life workbook takes you through four processes to get you back on the road to being, expressing and fully enjoying your sexuality, your sexual self. Each section has an audio recording to help and support you as you work your way through the book.

 You are totally amazing and on your way to being your best, most liberated sexual self ever!

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 082015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

Erectile dysfunction is an awful name for something that isn’t really a ‘dysfunction’ at all. It may appear to be a ‘dysfunction’ at first, but it is actually your body’s way of getting your attention.

There is usually something else going on, perhaps on an emotional or other level, which is actually behind the erectile dysfunction. I will say more about this later.

Some men may experience erectile dysfunction due to medical issues, such as having his prostate removed. Sometimes it might not be possible to get a full erection back. However, it is always possible to learn new ways to experience giving and receiving pleasure with your body. Erectile dysfunction is also sometimes known as E.D. or impotence. From now on, I’ll refer to it as E.D.

Typically, E.D. is when a man has difficulty getting and/or maintaining his erection. He might be able to get an erection in some situations and not others. For example he might have little or no trouble getting an erection on his own, but then have difficulty when he’s with a partner or lover. Or he might find it easy to get an erection, but not to sustain it, as he would like. This might happen just once or twice or can be an ongoing, long-term issue.

Even if a man has experienced E.D. just once, it can continue to cause a lot of stress and worry for him. Unfortunately we have this myth in our society that says that a man ‘should’ be able to get a big strong hard-on whenever he wants and ‘should’ be able to maintain it until he and his partner are fully satisfied. It is myths like this that cause so many men to feel inadequate and full of shame and fear around sexuality.

These feelings of inadequacy and shame lead to a lack of confidence, fear of being in a sexual situation and to always feeling ‘less than’. Not a good place to be! Especially as these feelings then radiate out into the rest of your life.

I’ve worked with hundreds of men over the years that tell me they have stopped initiating sex with their wives, girlfriends or lovers, or they’ve stopped looking for a partner. They have pretty much given up on sex altogether just because of the fear and shame they are feeling in regards to their ability to get or maintain an erection. This just leads to further shame and guilt and a downward spiral that isn’t good for anyone.

Many health professionals believe that E.D. can be caused by or is a sign of cardiovascular problems, high blood pressure, neurological problems, prostate cancer and more. I would beg to differ. I would say that all of these health issues, including the E.D., are part of a bigger picture. Usually there is a more personal, emotional, mental or spiritual cause that affects the erection as well as the physical health. Rather than E.D. being caused by or a sign of these things, I would say that all of these things together, including the E.D., are symptoms of something else going on in the system.

Our bodies have an extremely intelligent feedback system that lets us know when we are not paying attention to something in our lives (which could be mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually) or when something we think we believe in doesn’t line up with our greater Truth. You might know or feel intuitively that sex is a wonderful thing, a beautiful way to express yourself, and that pleasure is really good for you. However most of us grow up being told that sex, our bodies, and intimacy is shameful and that pleasure is something you have to earn.

When these negative, false messages get ingrained in us (and they do, on physical and energetic levels) it has a massive effect on how we live our lives and can eventually affect our health.

So it’s very likely that your E.D. is the Universe’s (Great Spirit, Divine Intelligence, Source, whatever word or concept works for you, it’s all the same) way of showing you where there’s a part of you that is holding on to fear, shame or guilt handed down by some source outside of you. Some outside authority that you thought knew better than you. Some part of you that you don’t love, a part of you that is experiencing anything other that perfect alignment with your magnificent self. It’s saying, ‘Hey, pay attention; I’ve been trying to tell you something for your growth and evolution. I love you.’

Read Part 2>>>>

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jun 102015
 

Why Size MattersRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about Why Size Matters and why it’s not at all what you might think.

Does size matter?

I gotta be honest, this question bugs the hell out of me. It immediately sets up competition, the falseness that one thing is better than another, the idea that there can be a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’.

It is an awful question that leads so many people to feeling really bad about themselves. Even if the answer is no, size doesn’t matter, the very existence of the question can lead some folk down a dark path of self doubt, and worse, self hate.

Size really doesn’t matter, however it’s our belief that size matters, that actually matters – if you get my drift.

There was a video going round the internet a few weeks back where different women, aged 18-50 were asked the question, Does size matter?

They were not asked ‘Does penis size matter’, but most of them took that to be the meaning of the question. There was a fairly even mix of answers. Some said yes, many said no. A few said it depends, or it just matters what you do with it.

On a very simple level, if you’re talking about penises, then that video pretty much sums it all up. Some people care about penis size, many don’t. Most are more concerned with connection and pleasure. That’s it.

However this question, Does size matter, this obsession with size, is just scratching the surface of something much more important.

Whether you’re talking about penises, breasts, muscles, labia, bellies, butts, thighs or anything else, we seem to have an unhealthy obsession with the size of the parts of our bodies and our bodies as a whole.

We love to judge ourselves and others based on if the size is ‘right’.

In the last couple of weeks I’ve had at least 3 men tell me that they were ashamed of their penises because they felt they were ‘too small’. This is a regular occurrence in my sessions and it breaks my heart.

I had a woman tell me that she’s never quite felt she was woman ‘enough’ because her breasts were ‘too small’.

On the other side of things I’ve had some men tell me that women had made rude comments about not wanting to have sex with them because their penises were ‘too big’.

I’ve also had several women tell me they were called sluts or some other derogatory term because they were big breasted.

What is the fucking obsession with size? Why do we have an idea that there is a ‘right’ size and a ‘wrong’ size? Why do we feel shame if we are not the ‘right’ size. Why do we shame others if they are not the size we prefer? Why do we listen to what anyone outside of us says and not just decide for ourselves what’s ok and what’s not. Why do we give our authority away to someone else?

‘Right’ size and ‘wrong’ size are arbitrary! What fits/looks good/gives pleasure/is preferred/feels good is different for everyone. One person’s ‘big’ is another person’s ‘small’. One person’s preference for small or large or whatever is perfectly OK! What society says is big or small now was different 50 years ago. It’s all made up!

Here is why size matters – or more accurately, why our beliefs about size matter and why we need to change them. Size matters because so many people are making themselves and others wrong, feeling shame, feeling not good enough because of how the think they ‘should’ be.

The obsession with size matters. The actual size, of any part of our bodies, does not matter. There is no right or wrong size. Yes, some people have preference, but preference for a particular size of breasts or penis doesn’t make the other sizes wrong. Your body is not wrong!

Please don’t look at other people’s bodies, either in real life or especially not in films or porn, and think that someone else’s body is better/worse or more right/wrong than yours.

All bodies are beautiful and perfect just as they are. All penises, breasts, muscles, labia, bellies, butts, thighs or anything else are just fine. If you can learn to love your body and your body parts just as they are, chances are you’ll attract the perfect person to you that also loves you and your body just the way it is.

Please go look in the mirror at your gorgeous naked body. Look how sensual and desirable you are! Do a little wiggle, shake your booty and stroke your delightful naked body all over. Tell your body that it is the perfect size and that you love it just as it is.


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RebeccaLowrieRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!