Jul 312016
 

 Bring More Pleasure To Your WeekRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how to bring more pleasure to your week.

Earlier today I was speaking with a friend who was dreading the start of the work week and was already looking ahead to the weekend yet to come. He was saying how the week was full of busyness and challenges and no pleasure.

I got to thinking about how we can bring pleasure to our week, to our days, no matter what is going on. When we get really present to each moment, pleasure is there to be had, to be experienced.

One of the ways to tune into this is to use your senses. Focus on your sense of taste, smell, sound, touch or sight. Even if what you see, hear, taste, feel or smell is not to your liking, being present with it still brings you fully into the moment at hand, and in that place, there is a kind of pleasure. A pleasure of being connected to the moment.

Another way to bring some pleasure into your week is to get connected to your sexual energy. Your sexual energy is life force energy, full of zingy aliveness, energetic nourishment and, you guessed it – pleasure! Think your sexual energy on and breathe it through your body.

You can do it as a sort of meditation if you have the time and space for that or you can just do it with three long, slow deep breathes wherever you are. Imagine that you are filling yourself up from Source (you are!) and allow that energy to flood through your body and energy system. Fill your cup to the brim, as it were. Sexual energy is limitless and abundant so you can breathe in as much as you feel to in the moment.

These are just a couple of suggestions to get you started. I’d love to hear how you bring pleasure to your week! Drop me a line at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me how you’ll be adding pleasure to your upcoming week.

You can also bring more pleasure to your week by getting your FREE audio meditation, Cultivating Presence For Intimacy And Pleasure!


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

 

Mar 142016
 

#MeditationMondays #2, Using Your SensesRebecca Lowrie shares her new #MeditationMondays video, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World.

Welcome to #MeditationMondays #2, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World. In this meditation you are guided to tune in to five of your senses; touch, sound, smell, taste and sight.

Relax and unwind as you go on a journey to experience your world, your surroundings, just as they are, in the present moment.

This meditation is good for you if you want to

  • Practice being more present
  • Fine tune your senses
  • Be guided and held as you relax
  • Experience the sensuality of the present moment
  • Learn to cultivate more pleasure and connection

I really hope you enjoy it. If you do, please pop over to YouTube and give it a ‘thumbs up’ or email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what other meditations you’d like to see. Happy meditating!


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Feb 022016
 

Wisdom for your sex lifeRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares how to improve your life and your sex life using ancient Toltec wisdom from the book, The Four Agreements.

One of the things I’m passionate about is that our sex lives don’t exist in a vacuum, they exist within the context of our lives. Sounds obvious, but I sometimes get clients who think that I can show them a magic way to have an amazing sex life without addressing other areas of their lives. I will be writing more on this in the coming months.

Today I want to share with you a fantastic book that I think helps guide us to live more easily in the world, thus helping us to have a better connection to ourselves and our partners. This in turn will lead to better life skills which translate directly to the bedroom.

The book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I first read this book about the time it came out in 1997. I was thrilled at how simple and yet deeply transformative it was – and still is.

wisdom for your sex life

The Four Agreements are ancient Toltec principles. As you become aware of them, and start to integrate them into your life, you will no doubt notice profound transformation in yourself, your relationships and how you live your life.

Let’s take a closer look at them and how they might affect your life and your sex life too.

The Four Agreements

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  • Speak with integrity.
  • Say only what you mean.
  • Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
  • Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

The words we speak are potent and have more impact than most of us are ever taught. How we speak, the words we use and our intention behind them creates spells. Think about it – we literally ‘spell’ words and speaking them is like casting those spells.

Whether we’re talking to ourselves, our partners, our work colleagues or even on social media, our words are powerful.

Be aware of what you’re spelling/speaking. If you want to live an easier, happier, richer, more fulfilled, more intimate life, then speak words to that.

When speaking with partners and lovers, and especially with yourself, be mindful of what you say and how you say it. Be clear, true and honest. If you are angry, find a way to dispel some of the energy and emotion before you speak so that you can be clear and not say things you might regret later.

Be mindful of your words and how you use them. Notice how different you feel and how the people around you respond.

  1. Don’t take anything personally.
  • Nothing others do is because of you.
  • What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
  • When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

This is absolutely crucial and can be difficult to remember.

Think of it this way, everyone you meet or come across has a history, a past, or even something that happened that morning, which often informs how they move through the world.

We are all a complex product of our ancestry, our childhood, our thoughts, habits and conditioning. It takes patience, practice and awareness to really implement this agreement into your life, and it is totally worth it!

Combined with the other agreements, this helps you to be more present and more clear in your relationships.

Did your partner say no when you wanted to be intimate? Please don’t take that personally. Yes, of course you need to review the situation and take responsibility for whatever you need to take responsibility for, but look deeper.

Is your partner particularly tired, stressed or preoccupied? Could you offer to listen to what’s going on for them instead?

If you do your best to not take what appears as rejection personally, you open up the possibility to see what is really going on and that is intimacy – which is ultimately what we all are seeking.

  1. Don’t make assumptions.
  • Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
  • Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
  • With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Like the previous agreement, this is crucial to being clear in your life and relationships. Clarity allows us to see the bigger picture and to make informed choices.

Don’t assume that you know why your partner is feeling a certain way. Don’t assume that they will respond in a certain way. Treat each moment anew. Unless you’ve taken the time to find out, you don’t know what’s really going on.

Even when things look or seem obvious, give someone the benefit of the doubt. Explore deeper. Most of the time people are just focused on their own lives and their own problems and are not trying to trip you up or reject you.

It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, to share our deeper thoughts, feelings and desires. It takes time to build intimacy and trust. So don’t assume anything, be open to what is and see how that creates more understanding and ultimately more pleasure and intimacy in your relationships.

  1. Always do your best.
  • Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
  • Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

When I first read this book and came across this particular agreement, I interpreted it to mean always push yourself hard. Obviously that is not at all what it means.

It’s much more simple than that. It just means, do your best in each moment, whatever ‘best’ is at that time.

Sometimes our best is outstanding and phenomenal. Sometimes our best is mediocre in comparison, but this is not about comparison. It’s about being true to yourself and the present moment.

What is your best right here, right now?

Anything less than your best in each moment is destructive. It can destroy confidence, patience and self-love for starters.

If you find yourself in a situation thinking, ‘Oh, I could have done better’, don’t kick yourself. Just allow yourself to notice, increase your awareness and then next time choose more carefully. Use your new awareness for conscious growth and expansion.

Conclusion

As I said before, these Four Agreements are simple and yet extremely powerful and potent. Together they are significant principles that will improve your life and therefore, your sex life too.

I’d recommend printing them out and putting them somewhere you can be reminded of them daily. Put them in your phone or wherever you will see them frequently.

Practice them daily and watch how your life and your relationships transform. 


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!


Jan 252016
 

5 Steps To Being A Better LoverRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, wants to help YOU be a better lover, and has a new eBook for you to do just that!

One of the questions I get asked the most is, ‘Can you teach me to be a better lover?’ People from all over the world, of all different ages and experiences want to know how to please their lovers, how to get more pleasure and intimacy out of their erotic experiences, and how to feel confident as a lover.

The great news is that YES, I can teach you how to be a better lover. 

Some people want to learn how to be a better lover through private sessions with me. I absolutely love, love, LOVE those sessions!

Learning to be a better lover is usually a process. It involves learning to be present, doing some self-enquiry, healing and letting go of ‘stuff’.

It often takes practice and patience to let go of old conditioning and allow your True Lover to emerge, to give that part of yourself permission to be free and to explore. It’s an exciting process that always leads to deeper satisfaction and fulfilment, more connection and intimacy and, of course, hotter sex!

However, not everyone can get to me for a private session and one of the things I am passionate about is empowering YOU! Soooooo… I’ve written an eBook (that includes 2 audios) so that you can learn to be a better lover from wherever you are, in your own time, at your own pace.

The 5 Steps To Being A Better Lover – Tonight eBook includes:

  • The 10 page eBook bursting with erotic information
  • Your 5-Point Action PlanTheSexualAlchemist.com
  • Practical tips for putting the plan in motion
  • 3 extra action bonus tips
  • A checklist to keep you on track
  • Plus two audios to support and guide you

Get '5 Steps To Being A Better Lover-Tonight!'

It is my deepest hope and desire that it will inspire and educate you and help you to be the very best lover you can be. I hope that it will help you to find your joy and pleasure as well as build your erotic confidence.


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!


 

Sep 212015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, announces her brand new Empowering Your Erection Program and explains why you should apply now!

Over the last 10 years I’ve had the joy and pleasure of working with at least 2000 men and their sexual issues. One of the most frequent things I’ve seen is men wanting to work with erection issues. Whether they’re experiencing full blown erectile dysfunction or just want to feel more confident with the erections they have, many men are looking for permission, liberation, healing and empowerment with their erections.

Earlier this year I released a digital, multimedia program, The Transform Your Sex Life Series – Empowering Your Erection (originally called Erectile Dysfunction) consisting of a 32 page eBook + 4 exclusive audios that men could download and do in the comfort of their own homes. This program aims to give you the power to heal, transform and empower your erection yourself with simple and very effective exercises based on the sessions I offer in person.

The digital program has received fantastic reviews and feedback and so far everyone that has used it (that has reported back) has felt huge benefits and improvements with their erections. Hurray! I’m absolutely over-the-moon thrilled about that!

Quite a few of the men who’ve used the digital program have asked if I would offer an in-person program to compliment the digital program. I thought that was a genius idea and so have created something really special as a response. The Empowering Your Erection Program is a bespoke program of in-person sessions, Skype sessions, email support and much more.

There are three different levels of exploration and support. You can choose from the 3 month Silver Program, the 6 month Gold program or the 9 month Platinum Program. Once you apply, you will be invited to a free 20 minute Skype chat so we can discuss your individual needs. Then I will create a bespoke Empowering Your Erection program just for YOU!

The beauty of this program is that it gives you the opportunity to fully commit to your personal sexual journey. You will be expertly guided and supported the whole way through. Working together over a period of time allows us to explore more deeply and really expand your possibilities for pleasure, intimacy and confidence with your erection.

If you’re ready to Empower Your Erection, boost your sexual confidence, learn techniques to last longer and have more pleasure then this program is for YOU! Apply now to transform your connection to your penis and your erection, to learn how to cultivate your sexual power and be the most confident, extraordinary and conscious sexual being you can be. ➞ Apply Now!

Find out more about The Empowering Your Erection Program here>>>>

P.S. As part of this program you will receive a complimentary copy of the digital Transform Your Sex Life Program – Empowering Your Erection. If you’ve already bought that program, I will reduct the price of it from this in-person program! ➞ Apply Now!


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Sep 142015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares 5 books that can help you step into your full sexual power by learning about being a conscious Dominant.

A long time ago I worked as a massage therapist and healer at a charity for people with disabilities. When I first started working there I noticed a strange trend. For 3 or 4 weeks at a time, I would get clients coming in for sessions with the same issue, illness or disability. I’d learn a lot about that particular disability or illness and then within 3 or 4 weeks, there would be a different trend.

The same has been happening recently in my current practice. A couple of months or so ago, many of the men who were coming for sessions were feeling a bit lost sexually and needed some help to find their path again.

Then I had a bunch of men who needed a boost to their sexual confidence and to be reconnected to their intuitive sexual selves.

Most recently I’ve seen a large number of men who, in order to step fully into their sexual power, needed to explore, reclaim and celebrate their Dominant sexual selves.

Since Dominance seems to be the current trend, I thought I’d share with you some books that can help you explore your Dominant side. In no particular order, here are some books that explore various elements and aspects of Dominance (and submission):

 Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

See my video review of Urban Tantra here>>>>

Barbara will be in London next month teaching her Urban Tantra Professional Training Program. Find out more about that here>>>>

 Radical Ecstasy by Dossie Easton

 Playing Well With Others by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams

 The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

 The Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

Whether you’re feeling Dominant or not, I’d love to hear what themes are coming up for you in your sexual journey at the moment. Email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what’s going on for you right now. I look forward to hearing from you!

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Sep 142015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, introduces the concept of ‘Saunatating’ and explains why it is good for your sex life.

Over the years I’ve explored a lot of different ways to connect in to Source or the Universe, or Infinite Intelligence or whatever you want to call it. For ease, I’m mostly going to call it Source but you can insert whatever word works best for you.

[bctt tweet=”Sex can be an amazing way to tune in to Source, in fact it’s my favourite way! “]For some people, that connection might happen naturally during sex. However, for most people it’s necessary to consciously pave the road to Source in other ways so that when you’re having sex or being sexual in some way, that road is there for you to travel.

Part of cultivating a deeper connection to your sexual self, in fact, all of your self, is taking time to be still, ‘tune in’ and listen, receive, heal or just be.

Becoming a better lover or businessperson or husband or anything, requires some on-going self development, self-evolvement, growing and expanding your understanding of yourself, others and the world around you.

Saunatating is my latest way of doing just that for myself. If you haven’t guessed it from the photo yet…

Saunatating = meditating in the sauna!

Makes sense now, right?

For me, meditating in the sauna works wonders! I do try to meditate at other times, in other places, but I’m often too easily distracted. I find I want to check my emails or get something to eat or go to the loo. My mind won’t settle and my body feels uncomfortable or at least my mind thinks it is.

When I’m in the sauna, my body instantly starts to relax. The heat feels so sensual and sort of like being held in a warm embrace. I absolutely cannot check my email or phone or read a book or be distracted in any other way. Yes, sometimes there are other people in there chatting, but I can tune them out.

I close my eyes and first take in the gorgeous smell of the wood and feel the heat starting to penetrate my skin. I love the contrast of entering the sauna feeling kind of cold and the sensation of my body starting to warm up. I set an intention for my body to release anything that no longer serves me through my sweat.

Once I’m settled and have set my intention, I focus my awareness inside my body and start checking in with my endocrine system. I want to see how it’s all working and if the glands are working in harmony. If they’re not, I listen to what they need and we find a way to create balance together.

Then I check in with the rest of my body, my internal organs, my bones, etc – sort of like a team meeting. I like greeting the different inner parts of my body, giving them some love, attention and focus – and they love it too!

Note: You could start anywhere you like or feel drawn to inside, the endocrine system is just where I like to start.

Eventually I start to feel out into the ether, beyond my body, into what I call the Matrix or the Quantum Field. Different things begin to happen.

Sometimes my body searches for the perfect template of health so it can align itself to that. Sometimes it feels like deep healing is happening and almost always, deep relaxation. I keep widening my awareness in all directions around me, allowing myself to become a bit bigger, to stretch and expand energetically.

More often than not I start to get clarity around things that are going on in my life at that time. I might hold a particular question, problem or thought in my mind as I begin to travel outwards and see where I end up.

Very often I get incredible inspiration, thoughts and solutions.

I’ve ‘downloaded’ entire blog posts, answers to difficult emails or situations and parts of several books that I’m writing, just by tuning in and ‘listening’.

sauna.5All in all, this whole process usually takes about 20 minutes. Either I slowly start to become aware of my body again, or I become aware of the heat and my own sweat. If I feel like the process is complete, I might have a swim or just go for a shower. If I feel like there is a bit more inspiration to be had, I take a cool shower, maybe swim a bit and take some time to cool down before one more go in the sauna.

Saunatating at least once a week helps me to stay relaxed, calm and focused. It also provides a great way for me to tune in to Source, which gives me enormous inspiration and feels good to my body, mind and soul.

Practicing these things allows me to apply them to my sex life.

I find it easier to drop out of my head space and into an embodied space with myself or my lover. When I open my body, heart and soul in a sexual situation it usually leads me to a Source connection too – which, by the way, is utterly amazing!

Practicing connecting to Source on my own fills me up, and helps me to bring my full self to sexual situations. Saunatating helps keep the pathways to Source open and flowing so that I have access in my every day life and especially when I’m aroused and being sexual.

How do you tune in to Source or to your inner ‘self’? Do you have a regular practice? I’d love to hear what works for you.

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Aug 192015
 

Too Tired For Sex?

 

 

 

 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, says it’s normal to feel too tired for sex sometimes and shares 4 tips to help you maintain intimacy and connection.

Have you ever been feeling all turned on and in the mood for love only to discover that your partner is just too tired? With busy lives, work, kids and all the other things that require our time and energy, chances are that this has happened to you.

Perhaps you were the one who was too tired. Perhaps you’re both too tired. It’s normal and bound to happen at some point during a long-term relationship.

How do you keep the intimacy alive and the flames burning when one or both of you are just too tired to get physical?

Here are 4 tips to help you maintain your intimacy and connection, even when your energy levels don’t quite match your desires:

  1. Communicate – If you’re the one feeling too tired, let your partner know that you love them and of course, still desire them, but currently don’t have the energy to get super active. If you want to, you could negotiate other ways to be intimate and connect sensually. If you’re the one being told, ‘No, I’m too tired’, then listen with an open heart. Listen to what your partner is actually saying rather than twisting their words. Sometimes, instead of hearing your partner’s truth about being tired, you just hear all the rejection you ever had in your whole life. Stay present. Allow yourself to see that your partner isn’t rejecting you, they are being true to their own needs at that time. That’s wonderful! They are saying Yes to themselves! If one or both of you regularly feels too tired, have a discussion about that. Take turns talking about how it feels, without placing or taking blame. It can feel very vulnerable to say that you’re too tired for sex. Speak and listen with compassion. Learning to speak your truth and also to hear what’s really being said will keep things clear between you.
  1. Be patient – with yourself and your partner.
  1. Reframe your ideas of ‘sex’ and find other ways to connect – Get creative. If you’re the one that’s too tired, be clear about your boundaries and what you may or may not have to offer. If you are the one who’s raring to go, be open to getting your needs met in a different way. Here are some things you could try instead of full-on penetrative sex:
  • Masturbate in front of your partner, while they stroke your hair and love on you.
  • Get comfy and kiss, deeply and passionately – without any expectation for things to go further.
  • Hold each other close and watch a film you both love.
  • Curl up together and tell each other fantasies you’d like to explore another time.
  • Slow dance and breathe each other in with love.
  • Slow, sensual oral sex.
  • Stroke each other’s bodies with love and full presence.
  1. If the tiredness is a long-term issue, look at how you can make some simple but effective changes to your life – 
  • Take any small steps you can to reduce stress. What things can you easily change to allow more time for relaxation and rest?
  • Make sure to eat healthily and get some exercise. Good, nutritious food is fuel for the body and mind and so is exercise. It will actually give you more energy!
  • Learn some simple breathing techniques to calm you down and help you relax.
  • Switch off the telly or computer at least half an hour before bedtime. Try to get some early nights or late mornings until you feel rested.
  • Learn to say NO. Sometimes we feel pressured to always say yes to things – to doing that extra bit of work, going out in the evening, helping a friend, etc, when what we really need is to look after ourselves.
  • If the tiredness persists over a long period of time, pop into your doctor’s for a check-up.

Most of all, remember that you are a team. [bctt tweet=”You have to work together to make the relationship work well and to keep intimacy open and flowing.”] What affects one of you will affect both of you and the relationship. Help each other to stay open and present to the current situation and find a way forward.

How do you navigate these times? With love, care and commitment.

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May 132015
 

8 essential tipsRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, helps you transform your sex life by sharing her 8 essential tips for being a much better lover.

Almost every day I get emails from people, men in particular, asking me if I can help them be better lovers. Often they assume that means I will show them how to touch this or lick that. I could, and sometimes do teach them those things. However, there are some much more important things to being a fabulous lover. Here are my 8 essential tips for being a much better lover…

1. Get present! This is the ultimate secret to being an amazing lover. Even if you know all the ‘methods and techniques’ in the world, if you aren’t present in the experience, present in your touch, fully present in the moment, then you will be a mediocre lover and have unfulfilling, superficial sexual experiences.

Being present means not thinking about other things like work, what you have to do later or wondering if you are doing it ‘right’, and instead having all of your attention and awareness on what is happening in front of you. Being fully present means bringing all of yourself to the moment – the parts you love about yourself and the parts you could love a bit more. Being fully present means allowing someone to really see you. Being fully present can take time to practice and cultivate. Start practicing it now and watch your sex life transform.

2. Look into each other’s eyes. It’s absolutely true that the eyes are the windows to the soul. If you want your sexual experiences to be out of this world, deeply fulfilling and soul expanding then get fully present and look into your partner’s eyes. Allow them to really see all of you, while at the same time you are witnessing their full true self.

Open your heart and see them with unconditional love, and allow yourself to be fully seen. It requires deep trust and vulnerability, acceptance and love, which will sky rocket your sexual experiences into cosmic realms of pleasure and connection.

3. Cultivate good, clear communication. This is absolutely essential to being an amazing lover. Don’t assume you know what your partner is thinking or that they know what you are thinking. Speak your truth, with love and care, and own your ‘stuff’. Learn to ask for what you want without expectation that your partner must fill your needs.

Share your sexual dreams and fantasies with each other. If you hold it in you may energetically shut a part of yourself off and that will decrease intimacy. Even if you aren’t in to each other’s fantasies, you will have learned something new about your partner. You will know them a bit better, and that will bring you closer together.

Develop good communication skills outside of the bedroom too. This keeps the air clear between you and strengthens trust which leads to better, more fulfilling sexual experiences.

4. Don’t be afraid to try new things. That might mean a new position, a new place, a sex toy or a fun fantasy. It could even mean going to a dance class, trying a kink workshop or taking singing lessons. At worst you’ll just figure out something you don’t like and you don’t have to repeat it. At best you’ll have a great time, increase intimacy and expand your sexual possibilities and experiences.

5. Play! Sex is different things at different times. Sometimes it is deeply emotional, healing and transformational. Sometimes it is wild, ecstatic and cosmic. Other times it is funny, silly and playful. Get out of your head and into your body. Don’t worry about what you look like or if you’re doing it right. Don’t try to control your beautiful orgasm face or the sounds that surge from your body as pleasure takes over. Let sex be fun! Have a playful attitude, relax and just enjoy connecting with your sexual self and your partner.

6. DO NOT try to impress or ‘perform’! ‘Sex is not something you do, it’s something you allow’. Sex and intimacy are about being fully present with your sexual self, allowing pleasure, being connected to your body, to your heart and sometimes to a partner and the whole cosmos. If you are trying to impress your lover or perform some act you’ve read about, chances are you aren’t being present.

7. Be yourself. Hiding your true self will never lead to actual intimacy. As one of my teachers used to say, 8 Essential Tips for Being a Much Better Lover‘Intimacy is in-to-me-see’. Pretending to be something or someone you’re not will not lead to a fulfilling or positive sexual experience. Bring as much of your full true self as you can to each unfolding moment. That is where true intimacy is and ultimately it is intimacy that we are looking for in sex. Be yourself and the rest will flow naturally.

8. Cultivate self-love. It is vitally important that you are able to love yourself, accept yourself and care for yourself in order to be a great lover. Explore ways to nurture and nourish your soul and your sexual self.

If you aren’t filling up your own cup, as it were, then you are coming as an empty vessel to a relationship or connection, hoping that they will fill you up. Even if you do find someone who will do that for a time, it weakens your ability to do it for yourself and if they leave or change their mind you are in trouble.

Find out what sustains you, what makes you come alive and do lots of that. Be the person you’d love to have as a lover or partner. Bring your abundant, nourished and enlivened self to the bedroom and experience first hand how that makes you a fantastic, compassionate, hot and much better lover.


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Apr 302015
 

UseTHISoneEver wondered what happens when you book a session to explore or expand your sexuality? Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares 101 things that might happen to you during a session with her.

[Read Part 1]  [Read Part 2]

I get lots of emails from people who are interested in exploring, expanding or transforming their sex lives and quite often they’d like to know, ‘What happens in a session?’ There is no standard answer for this as each person’s journey is unique and sessions are allowed to unfold organically. Carrying on from where we left off in Part 1 and Part 2here is a little peek into what else might happen for you:

  1. You realize that penetration is not always the goal. Neither is ejaculation.
  2. You are reminded that ejaculation is totally wonderful and ok too.
  3. You might learn that your ejaculation, in fact all of your bodily fluids, are divine, sacred and fabulous.
  4. You might explore your kinky side.
  5. You might expand what you already know about your kinky side.red handcuffs.2
  6. You might learn all kinds of new things about yourself and your sexuality that you never knew.
  7. You might experience pleasure in a whole new way.
  8. You might open up to new experiences and possibilities.
  9. You might give yourself permission and find the confidence to be your Full Sexual Self.
  10. You might give yourself permission and find the confidence to try offering new things to your lover.
  11. You might discover that you are an incredible, expansive and wildly sexual being.
  12. You might make peace with a difficult past or a relationship you’ve not been able to let go of.
  13. You might find deep healing in a word, a look or a touch that is offered to you.
  14. You might find deep healing in allowing yourself to be really seen and accepted just as you are.
  15. You might find deep healing in being naked or not being naked with a new person.
  16. You will learn about your boundaries – even if you thought you didn’t have any. Especially if you thought you didn’t have any! This will empower you in many other areas of your life.
  17. You will learn about consent – and this will empower you in many other areas of your life too.
  18. You will start to feel more connected to yourself, to life, to nature, to others.
  19. You might feel gratitude and offer up some positive affirmations for your life.
  20. You might start to see that your sexual energy is so fucking incredible and can be used for so much more than just sex. Although sex is great too!
  21. You might discover that you like being flogged or spanked or bitten or caned.
  22. You might discover that you enjoy offering a flogging, spanking, biting or caning.
  23. You might experience prostate massage and find out that it’s healing/opening/arousing/hot and that you’d like to do it a lot more.
  24. You might discover that you love being anally penetrated.
  25. You will boost your immune system, get your blood flowing, get more oxygen in your system and feel healthier generally.
  26. You might leave with a spring in your step and a smile on your face.
  27. You might feel better than you’ve felt for a long time.www.thesexualalchemist.com
  28. You might feel hope where there was none before.
  29. You might remember Who You Really Are.
  30. You will feel more confident and more self-love.
  31. You will wonder what took you so long to book a session.
  32. You will wonder what you were so afraid of.
  33. You will have a new, expanded connection to your sexuality, your body, to intimacy and pleasure.
  34. Life will never be the same again, your life will expand and improve, your confidence will grow, your sexuality will blossom and you will be ready to share your self, your bliss, your truth and your purpose with the world.

So there you have it – a small taster of the things that might happen when you book a session. Your own journey will be totally unique to you and may, or may not, include some of the above. There is only one way to find out… Book My Sexual Alchemy Session!

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Apr 272015
 

Sexual AlchemyRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, finds out that Sexual Alchemy is actually Quantum Physics and explains why that’s so exciting for her and transformational for you and the world!

Wowwww! I’ve just returned from doing Dr John DeMartini’s Breakthrough Experience! What an amazing weekend. Dr DeMartini is a Human Behaviour Specialist, author, teacher and speaker who travels the world teaching life mastery skills. The absolutely mind blowing thing, well, one of many, is that he actually explains the science behind it all – the science behind life mastery.

Now I’ve spent most of my lifetime being a bona fide ‘hippy’, new age-y, and spiritual person. I follow what I feel – in my heart, in my body, in my soul. I have generally been lead by my intuition, my inner guidance or what I sometimes lovingly call my inner SatNav.

This also applies to my work with sexuality. I don’t follow a medical model; I use energy and intention, intuition, vibration, breath. I align with a person’s energy field and set an intention according to where they say they want to go in relation to their sexual self, sexuality, etc and off we go. Sometimes focusing on breath or using touch or movement or whatever expedites this process. These things also help to empower people to transform themselves. I don’t want anyone dependent on me for their healing and transformation. That doesn’t serve anyone. I want to empower my clients to be masters of their own sex life.

Dr DeMartini pretty much explained the scientific workings of what I do!! He actually broke it down into quantum motherfucking physics and explained how my use of energy and intention, vibration, breath and touch works! I have always known that it works – I see incredible transformations in my practice every day. But I’ve never been able to explain it scientifically. I’ve always suspected that it could be explained scientifically, but didn’t know where to begin with that and, to be honest, wasn’t all that interested until recently.

I have always had a fear that if I couldn’t explain my work scientifically, if the ‘establishment’, the doctors and scientists couldn’t measure it, then I could only play small, keep quiet and stay under the radar.

Well that has all changed! Now I know that what I do is explainable by science, just not the science people kept pointing me to. It is way beyond anatomy and physiology. It’s quantum physics! That’s right, Sexual Alchemy is quantum physics!

Now I might not yet be able to repeat what Dr DeMartini took several hours to explain, but even knowing that it’s possible to explain that what looks like ‘hippy-dippy’ new-age practices and techniques are actually quantum physics fills me with huge joy, inspiration and gratitude.

I feel proud and also humble to be able to serve humanity in this way. It is an honour and a privilege. It is my life’s mission. I am going to help to transform humanity’s ideas and experiences of sexuality using Sexual Alchemy and Quantum motherfucking Physics! Look out world!

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If you’re inspired and ready to experience your own Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Apr 212015
 

UseTHISoneEver wondered what happens when you book a session to explore or expand your sexuality? Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares 101 things that might happen to you during a session with her.

[Read Part 1]   [Read Part 3]

I get lots of emails from people who are interested in exploring, expanding or transforming their sex lives and quite often they’d like to know, ‘What happens in a session?’ There is no standard answer for this as each person’s journey is unique and sessions are allowed to unfold organically. Carrying on from where we left off in Part 1>>>, here is a little peek into what might happen for you:

  1. You learn how to use your breath to connect to Cosmic/Universal/Divine/Source energy – and it feels fantastic!
  2. We move the Cosmic/Universal/Divine/Source energy between us and your head starts to tingle.
  3. We connect your sexual energy to your heart using just breath and intention.
  4. We connect your sexual energy, heart energy and Cosmic/Universal/Divine/Source energy using www.thesexualalchemist.comjust breath and intention and you feel open and expanded in ways you didn’t know were possible.
  5. We breathe this combined energy between us and you start to realize, with joy and wonder, that we haven’t even touched the tip of the iceberg of sexual possibilities.
  6. You feel safe, relaxed, present, in your body and curiously excited about what else we might do.
  7. You learn how to use your breath to move sexual energy around your body, and why you would want to do that.
  8. You find out how it feels to be aroused all over your body, not just in your genitals.
  9. We invite your ‘sexual self’ to come out so we can see/hear/feel what he needs.
  10. Your sexual self feels seen and heard for the first time in a very long time.
  11. You might be surprised at what he has to say, what he needs, what he asks for.
  12. It feels wonderful to feel him coursing through your veins, taking his place within your body, filling you up.
  13. You feel empowered, alive, confident and aroused – or scared or sad or any of a million other things – and that is OK! You feel truly welcome to allow whatever feelings come up.
  14. You notice that feelings transform when you give them your attention, so we stay present with whatever happens.
  15. You find out that there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in a session, just whatever is happening or whatever works. That’s it. You can’t get it wrong.
  16. You are held, with love, while you cry from the bottom of your soul.  www.thesexualalchemist.com
  17. You are encouraged to allow your anger to rise up and shown how to safely express it, learn from it, make friends with it.
  18. You are delighted to be invited to give your sexual self expression and feel received with love and joy.
  19. You are able to allow yourself to be touched in new ways. Unexpected ways.
  20. You learn new and beautiful ways to touch your partner or lover.
  21. You learn about Conscious Touch and Erotic Touch and the difference between the two. We practice these on each other.
  22. You learn how to use your arousal to create arousal for your partner or lover.
  23. You discover what Tantrikas mean when they say they made love for 8 hours. It’s not what you think – it’s even better!
  24. You learn how to choose when you ejaculate and/or orgasm rather than having the two happen at the same time, or not having a choice.
  25. You find out why orgasming without ejaculating is a wonderful thing to learn.
  26. You learn to prolong your pleasure, and your lover’s pleasure, for as long as you wish.
  27. You learn how to have stronger, longer erections.
  28. You learn that having stronger and longer erections is not necessarily better than what is already happening for you.
  29. You learn about the joys of having a flaccid penis.
  30. You begin to love and appreciate your penis, in fact, your whole body.
  31. You create a whole new relationship to your penis.
  32. You learn how to use or engage the rest of your body for your sexual pleasure, not just relying on your cock.
  33. Tension and stress are released from your body using your arousal.
  34. You discover that your sexual energy can be used for so much more than just penetrative sex.

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If you’re inspired and ready to experience your own Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Apr 152015
 

101 things that might happen in a Sexual Alchemy sessionEver wondered what happens when you book a session to explore or expand your sexual self? Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares 101 things that might happen in a session with her. Part 1 of a 3 part series.

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I get lots of emails from people who are interested in exploring, expanding or transforming their sex lives and quite often they’d like to know, What happens in a session?’ Of course there is no standard answer for this as each person’s journey is unique and sessions are allowed to unfold organically.

Here is a little peek into what might happen for you:

  1. You take important steps to addressing issues that have been on your mind for a long time.
  2. You find out that you are not alone with these issues.
  3. You also find out that working with/solving/transforming your issues is much easier than you thought it would be.
  4. You are able to talk about your sexual issues, your sexual desires, problems, fantasies and more without being judged or told you are bad or wrong. In fact, you feel listened to, heard and received in a whole new way that makes you feel good.
  5. You start to realize how important addressing your sexuality, sexual problems, etc really is and how much it affects the rest of your life.
  6. You start to feel hopeful. Hopeful that you can transform your sexual situation – whatever that means to you, and hopeful that this will expand out into the rest of your life.
  7. Saying these things that you’ve been holding on to with fear for so long, getting them all out in the open, allows your body to start to relax.
  8. You experience feeling safe, held and ready to explore.
  9. You open to new possibilities and allow the session to develop naturally.
  10. You feel trust and relax into this natural unfolding.
  11. You experience yourself as courageous and willing.
  12. You learn about your body, where it might need some attention, healing, and loving. Become aware of your body in whole new ways
  13. You might even allow that to happen right there in the session.
  14. You become aware of your body in whole new ways.
  15. Becoming aware of your body, what’s happening in it, what it’s asking for, what it’s telling you, allows you to have a much closer relationship with it.
  16. This leads to a deeper understanding of yourself and your sensual/sexual likes and dislikes.
  17. You learn about the importance of being fully present in each moment. Whether on your own, with a lover or out in your life, you realize that ‘presence’ will revolutionize how you experience your life and, of course, your sex life.
  18. You learn how to practice making choices from the present moment so that you are not held back by your past. It doesn’t exist anymore. You start to untether yourself from it.
  19. This also allows you to be more fully present in your body, which leads to more pleasure!
  20. You learn about the importance of keeping your heart open, as open as you can in each moment. Keep your heart openYes, opening your heart is a risk and will make you vulnerable, but when it’s closed nothing can get in or out. It is always worth the risk to keep your heart open. 
  21. We talk about releasing whatever doesn’t serve you anymore, on all levels, and why that’s important.
  22. You allow some energy healing to help with this releasing and feel calm/relaxed/energized/lighter/healthier/happier/clearer.
  23. We talk about ways for you to stay connected to your body – getting regular massages, doing tai chi, going to the gym or for long walks, dancing, swimming, breathing… you continue to add your ideas to the list and feel so much better for it.
  24. You learn how focused breathing can help you get present in your body, open you up, raise or lower your energy, help to move sexual energy around and so much more.
  25. We practice different kinds of breathing to see how it feels and what it does for you.
  26. You are amazed at how being aware of your breath can make you feel!
  27. We wake up your sexual energy.
  28. You learn how to use your breath to engage with your sexual energy.
  29. We move sexual energy between us just using breath and intention.
  30. You are thrilled that you can feel this – maybe you even feel a little aroused.
  31. You learn how to use your breath to engage with the energy of your heart.
  32. We move the energy of the heart between us just using breath and intention.
  33. You can feel this and it gives you information about how your heart (physical and metaphysical) is doing. Amazing!

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If you’re inspired and ready to experience your own Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Dec 102014
 

TheSexualAlchemist.comRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how you can expand your ideas and possibilities for orgasm. 

I recently read a comment by a sex educator that really surprised and saddened me. This sex educator had met a woman who was telling her that she experienced breast orgasms. The sex educator wasn’t aware that this was possible and said that she found the idea of a woman orgasming without genital stimulation ‘perplexing’.

Perplexing? I was perplexed that a sex educator actually thought the only route to orgasm was genital stimulation! Don’t get me wrong, genital stimulation is great, but why limit yourself? Then I thought, well, if she doesn’t know about other routes to orgasm, maybe there are lots of people who don’t know. So I’m going to share a little something with you…

Here’s the big secret – there are lots of ways to orgasm! You can have genital orgasms, breast orgasms, nipplegasms, ballgasms, breathgasms, energygasms, analgasms, cosmicgasms, laughgasms, crygasms, Domgasms, subgasms, lovegasms, heartgasms, floggergasms, dancegasms, musicgasms, joygasms, gymgasms, naturegasms, fruitgasms, chocolategasms, Christmasgasms and loads more!

Very simply put, an orgasm is a release of energy. It’s a letting go, a temporary falling into the sacred void, a surrender to our true nature. Qualities often associated with orgasm are increased heart rate, muscular contractions, deeper breathing, and feelings of peace, warmth, euphoria, love and much more. There is usually an absolute inability to do anything else other than be ‘in’ the orgasm!

Some people might have several types of orgasms all at once. I often cry or laugh during a genital orgasm. It just happens and is part of the big energy release that started in my genitals (or elsewhere!) but has spread through my whole body and if I’m lucky, through my whole being!

So, how do you have these other kinds of orgasms? Well, sometimes they just happen. Have you ever been laughing with a friend where the laugh comes from so deep inside your belly and you can barely breathe and the whole world just becomes your intense laughter? That’s a laughgasm for sure!

You can also practice cultivating different types of orgasms. I say practice because we often have fear, shame or conditioning in the way. It can take practice to learn to quiet the mind so you can allow delicious eruptions of pleasure when they come your way.

Here’s the thing – when you’re in the middle of a great sexual orgasm you are rarely thinking about work or your to-do list. For those few seconds (or longer if you’re lucky) you are fully present, fully in the moment. You are surrendered to the orgasm, no matter what kind of orgasm it is.

One way to increase your chances of experiencing these different sorts of orgasms is to give yourself fully and completely to whatever you are doing. Be utterly present whether you are gardening, dancing, cleaning, fucking, making love or singing, do it with deep presence and awareness. Before you know it there will be no separation between you and the thing that is occurring, and that in itself is a form of orgasm.

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Empower Your ErectionIf you’d like to expand your orgasmic possibilities email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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May 262013
 

TheSexualAlchemist.com

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how men can learn to orgasm without ejaculation to last longer & have more pleasure.

Very often in my private practice men tell me that they want to learn to last longer and expand their pleasure during sex. Many men believe that they have to ejaculate to enjoy sex or masturbation and that once they’ve cum it’s all over.

The thing is, ejaculation and orgasm are two different things. Usually they occur at the same time unless a man learns to separate them. Ejaculation is the expulsion of semen from the body and orgasm is the delicious waves of pleasure and movement of energy through the body that often accompany it.

So why would a man want to learn to separate the two? Here are some of the many benefits:

  • Last longer during sex and masturbation
  • More control and choice over when you ejaculate
  • Experience wave after wave of orgasmic bliss for as long as you want
  • Circulating orgasmic energy throughout the body is very good for your health!
  • Have expanded orgasms – even full body orgasms!
  • Orgasm as long as you like without ejaculating

So if you want to last longer, enjoy sex more, expand your orgasms and even improve your health, learning to orgasm without ejaculation is just the thing for you! The great news is that it’s easier than you might think and fun too! I have helped hundreds of men learn to do this and would be thrilled to help you too.

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Dec 152012
 

Sacred Relationship

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares what she believes makes a ‘Sacred Relationship’.

I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and sacred.

What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after seven years together, do we still feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred Relationship?

Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:

Consciousness – Our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.

Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.

Owning our ‘stuff’ – So often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past with each other.

Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.

Commitment – We take time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily basis. Quality not quantity is important here.

Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.

Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each fuels and nourishes the other.

Being present.

Courage.

Tantra has taught me all of these things and more. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you either on your own or with your partner.

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Dec 152012
 

Sex, love andRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist talks about the importance and pleasure of connecting sex, love and divinity.

In many ways, tantra saved my life. Really. My sexual energy was spiraling out of control and I didn’t know what to do with such an abundance of it. It was sort of like having the keys to a Ferrari and not knowing how to drive. My relationships had either been full of love or full of sex but I hadn’t quite managed to have both at the same time.

Then I discovered tantra – not the tantra I’d read about in books, but real, experiential, live-as-it-happens tantra. I learned that, although raw, primal sexual energy feels really good, when it is allowed to blend and mix with the energy of the heart, with love, it becomes something entirely different and utterly amazing. I don’t mean this in any ‘goody-two shoes’ kind of way, I mean it in the ‘knock your socks off, didn’t know this was possible’ kind of way.

If you think about it, love and sex are two of the most potent energies we have flowing through us. They are often said to be what makes the world go round. Now imagine learning to consciously combine these two powerful energies – whether to use when you’re being sexual or just living your everyday life – and wow! Now take that one step further and allow this heady mixture to fuel your connection to Source, the Universe, Divinity and ‘holy orgasm batman’, what a recipe for bliss, ecstasy!

This is where tantra’s reputation for mind-blowing sex comes from. It’s not about specific ‘techniques and methods’ for touching the clitoris or how to give the best blowjobs. It’s about getting present and connecting our sexual energy to our hearts and the Universe.

When these three energies begin to connect and flow freely, a whole new world of possibilities opens up. As you practice consciously connecting sexual energy and love, you’ll come to find that just allowing love to flow will start to fuel your arousal. My partner has come to affectionately call this his ‘love hard-on’. And there’s more… you can allow your sexual energy to nourish, heal and open your heart when it is feeling shut down and protected.

If that’s not enough, the cherry on the cake is union with divinity. (Union with divinity!) When the blend of sexual energy and love is allowed to travel up through your body, and out through the top of your head you experience your connection to the Universe, to the All-That-Is.

In this place you are truly free, liberated from ‘ego’, the ‘self’. The mixture of sexual energy and love is the rocket fuel that blasts you into this cosmic realm. Making love (with yourself or a Beloved) from this connected, flowing space is literally ‘out of this world’.

I could have carried on having relationships that were full of love or full of sex, where the two never met. But something in me instinctively knew there was more. My relationship is deeper, fuller and more intimate because of it. I’m so grateful to have discovered tantra. It has changed my life in every way and now I am blessed to be able to share it through my work. I look forward to meeting you along the path.

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If you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me atrebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Dec 152012
 

TheSexualAlchemist.com
Sexual Alchemist & conscious sexuality practitioner Rebecca Lowrie talks about how being truly present makes sex deeply intimate, and totally mind-blowing!

It happened in a phone shop on a normal high street in north London. I was waiting for my phone to be returned when the young man working in the shop asked me what I did for a living. I never know quite how to answer that question and various answers usually pop out of my mouth. ‘I teach sacred sexuality’, I told him. ‘Oh,’ he said.

I could almost hear the cogs of his brain turning. ‘So what could you teach me?’ he asked. Feeling it to be a genuine request, I asked him if he wanted to learn how to have the most mind-blowing sex ever. ‘Of course!’ he said, laughing a little nervously. Several other assistants and a customer were now paying attention. ‘Come here,’ I said. He came and stood in front of me, less than a foot away. ‘Relax… breathe… now bring yourself fully into this moment and look into my eyes’. He did exactly as I instructed and after about five seconds exclaimed, ‘Wow, ohmygod, what did you just do? That was amazing! AMAZING!’ He was ecstatic. All I did was request his full presence and offer him mine back. It’s that simple really. He was still muttering happily to himself when I left.

Being present is one of the most important, useful, joyful, mind-blowing things I’ve learned from my journey through tantra. Being really present in each and every moment is all there really is and yet we usually have our attention in the past or future.

Most of us are taught at a very early age how to distract ourselves. A friend once told me about a trip to a funfair where each time she got on a ride, her friend would say to her, ‘What are we going on next?’ She didn’t get to enjoy the ride she was actually on because her attention was constantly being drawn to the future. We all do this in one way or another. We reminisce about the past or worry about tomorrow, but rarely take time to just be where we are.

When we get really, truly present, the world changes completely! When I allow myself to be fully present with my partner, he is new and different in each and every moment! What a delight! Our relationship, our love making never gets old or stale because all the old moments are gone, dead. Here we are in this brand new moment that didn’t exist before, oh, and here’s another one. Who is this amazing man here with me right now, and right now and right now? It’s so exciting! Every time we touch, kiss, caress is like the first time!

Try this at home: (either with your Beloved or as a solo practice looking into your own eyes in a mirror) Sit quietly with your Beloved and softly, gently, look into each other’s eyes. Let your thoughts subside and allow yourself to be fully present with whatever ‘is’ in that moment and each new moment as it unfolds. Bring your awareness to your heart and allow love to flow – in and out. Behold your Beloved as they are in this instant. In this shared space, everything is fresh and new and anything is possible. In the unpredictability of each second, the magnitude of each breath, and the vitality of each moment, your passion for each other can be constantly rediscovered. If you regularly take the time to be present with yourself and with your Beloved, your ever-evolving selves will fill a lifetime with love, desire and deep intimacy.

Related Posts:

Tantric Beginnings>>>>

Connecting Sex, Love and Divinity>>>>

Sacred Relationship>>>>


Empower Your ErectionIf you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!