Sep 102016
 

Your Sex Life Doesn't Exist In A Vacuum

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, explores the idea that your sex life doesn’t exist in a vacuum, it sits in the container of your life.

Our sex life doesn’t exist outside the realms of our daily life and vice versa. In order to truly, fully explore who we are as sexual beings, we also have to look at and address other areas of our lives. Our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual selves are all interlinked. Our sexual self is the thread that runs through all of these areas.

If you follow me on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, you’ll know that I often talk about or post photos about health, going to the gym, eating well, meditation and being outside in nature. This is because these are all crucial to your sexual well-being.

I’d love to hear your comments about this and the video below. Please email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me your thoughts!

 


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Feb 022016
 

Wisdom for your sex lifeRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares how to improve your life and your sex life using ancient Toltec wisdom from the book, The Four Agreements.

One of the things I’m passionate about is that our sex lives don’t exist in a vacuum, they exist within the context of our lives. Sounds obvious, but I sometimes get clients who think that I can show them a magic way to have an amazing sex life without addressing other areas of their lives. I will be writing more on this in the coming months.

Today I want to share with you a fantastic book that I think helps guide us to live more easily in the world, thus helping us to have a better connection to ourselves and our partners. This in turn will lead to better life skills which translate directly to the bedroom.

The book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I first read this book about the time it came out in 1997. I was thrilled at how simple and yet deeply transformative it was – and still is.

wisdom for your sex life

The Four Agreements are ancient Toltec principles. As you become aware of them, and start to integrate them into your life, you will no doubt notice profound transformation in yourself, your relationships and how you live your life.

Let’s take a closer look at them and how they might affect your life and your sex life too.

The Four Agreements

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  • Speak with integrity.
  • Say only what you mean.
  • Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
  • Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

The words we speak are potent and have more impact than most of us are ever taught. How we speak, the words we use and our intention behind them creates spells. Think about it – we literally ‘spell’ words and speaking them is like casting those spells.

Whether we’re talking to ourselves, our partners, our work colleagues or even on social media, our words are powerful.

Be aware of what you’re spelling/speaking. If you want to live an easier, happier, richer, more fulfilled, more intimate life, then speak words to that.

When speaking with partners and lovers, and especially with yourself, be mindful of what you say and how you say it. Be clear, true and honest. If you are angry, find a way to dispel some of the energy and emotion before you speak so that you can be clear and not say things you might regret later.

Be mindful of your words and how you use them. Notice how different you feel and how the people around you respond.

  1. Don’t take anything personally.
  • Nothing others do is because of you.
  • What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
  • When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

This is absolutely crucial and can be difficult to remember.

Think of it this way, everyone you meet or come across has a history, a past, or even something that happened that morning, which often informs how they move through the world.

We are all a complex product of our ancestry, our childhood, our thoughts, habits and conditioning. It takes patience, practice and awareness to really implement this agreement into your life, and it is totally worth it!

Combined with the other agreements, this helps you to be more present and more clear in your relationships.

Did your partner say no when you wanted to be intimate? Please don’t take that personally. Yes, of course you need to review the situation and take responsibility for whatever you need to take responsibility for, but look deeper.

Is your partner particularly tired, stressed or preoccupied? Could you offer to listen to what’s going on for them instead?

If you do your best to not take what appears as rejection personally, you open up the possibility to see what is really going on and that is intimacy – which is ultimately what we all are seeking.

  1. Don’t make assumptions.
  • Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
  • Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
  • With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Like the previous agreement, this is crucial to being clear in your life and relationships. Clarity allows us to see the bigger picture and to make informed choices.

Don’t assume that you know why your partner is feeling a certain way. Don’t assume that they will respond in a certain way. Treat each moment anew. Unless you’ve taken the time to find out, you don’t know what’s really going on.

Even when things look or seem obvious, give someone the benefit of the doubt. Explore deeper. Most of the time people are just focused on their own lives and their own problems and are not trying to trip you up or reject you.

It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, to share our deeper thoughts, feelings and desires. It takes time to build intimacy and trust. So don’t assume anything, be open to what is and see how that creates more understanding and ultimately more pleasure and intimacy in your relationships.

  1. Always do your best.
  • Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
  • Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

When I first read this book and came across this particular agreement, I interpreted it to mean always push yourself hard. Obviously that is not at all what it means.

It’s much more simple than that. It just means, do your best in each moment, whatever ‘best’ is at that time.

Sometimes our best is outstanding and phenomenal. Sometimes our best is mediocre in comparison, but this is not about comparison. It’s about being true to yourself and the present moment.

What is your best right here, right now?

Anything less than your best in each moment is destructive. It can destroy confidence, patience and self-love for starters.

If you find yourself in a situation thinking, ‘Oh, I could have done better’, don’t kick yourself. Just allow yourself to notice, increase your awareness and then next time choose more carefully. Use your new awareness for conscious growth and expansion.

Conclusion

As I said before, these Four Agreements are simple and yet extremely powerful and potent. Together they are significant principles that will improve your life and therefore, your sex life too.

I’d recommend printing them out and putting them somewhere you can be reminded of them daily. Put them in your phone or wherever you will see them frequently.

Practice them daily and watch how your life and your relationships transform. 


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!


Nov 252015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares a quote about the very essence of a Sexual Alchemy session.

The essence of a sexual alchemy session

Every now and then a something shows up on the internet that really speaks to me. This week I was deeply touched by this quote that appeared in my Instagram feed.

Go and love someone exactly as they are. And then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered. Wes Angelozzi

For me this is the very essence of what happens in my Sexual Alchemy sessions. Yes, other things happen as well but the essence, the core, is that delicious, intimate meeting of souls. That moment that you are met and seen just as you are – in a completely open, non-judgmental and loving space, something deep and beautiful happens.

Your body relaxes in ways you may never have felt before, forgotten parts of you wake up and start to integrate back into the whole and you feel lighter, brighter and more alive!

Bringing consciousness and unconditional love to our unloved places, the parts of us that are carrying fear, shame and guilt, has the capacity to totally transform and liberate us. [bctt tweet=”Being seen and loved exactly as we are in any given moment is incredibly empowering and life changing.”]

So whether we’re doing some deep healing on sexual issues, waking up dormant erotic energy, empowering your erection, exploring tantra or conscious kink, or anything else at all, please know that the essence of what we’re doing is creating a space for you to be fully accepted and loved just as you are – as a vibrant, divine and wildly sexy being!

If you’d like to know more about what happens in my Sexual Alchemy sessions have a read of these blog posts:

101 Things That Might Happen In A Sexual Alchemy Session Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3


Empower Your Erection


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

 

 

Oct 232015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her Empowering Your Erection Program with Dr Martha Tara Lee on the Eros Evolution Radio Show.

I was honoured to be asked to appear on Dr Lee’s radio show to talk about my Empowering Your Erection digital program.

We had a great time chatting about sexuality in general and in particular, the connection between sexuality and spirituality. We talked about the importance of presence, breath and self-enquiry as paths to having expanded and deeper experiences of sex and sexuality.

Martha also asked me about why I created the Empowering Your Erection program and how a digital product can help men with erection issues. I talked her through the program and told her how each section is based on the private sessions I’ve offered to men over the last 10 years. Have a listen to find out more…

 

Find out more about the Empowering Your Erection digital program here>>>>

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Oct 062015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, asks how she can best serve your sexual growth and expansion?

So I know it’s only October, but I’m already thinking about how I can help you in 2016!

I’d love to create the perfect session, program or whatever else would help you to grow and expand your sexuality, to fully embrace and celebrate yourself as a magnificent sexual being.

I’m curious – what are your most urgent sexual issues and needs? What it is that you would like to learn or discover about your sexual self in the coming months and the new year?

To make it super easy for you, I’ve created a very short survey (only 6 questions!) and I would be immensely grateful if you’d pop over to it and fill it out.

You can can do the survey completely anonymously and you only have to answer the questions you wish to answer. Obviously the more you answer the better I can serve you.

It shouldn’t take more than 5 or 10 minutes of your time. You can complete it in the form below or on this page.

A million thank you’s and a big warm juicy hug coming at ya!

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Sep 212015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, announces her brand new Empowering Your Erection Program and explains why you should apply now!

Over the last 10 years I’ve had the joy and pleasure of working with at least 2000 men and their sexual issues. One of the most frequent things I’ve seen is men wanting to work with erection issues. Whether they’re experiencing full blown erectile dysfunction or just want to feel more confident with the erections they have, many men are looking for permission, liberation, healing and empowerment with their erections.

Earlier this year I released a digital, multimedia program, The Transform Your Sex Life Series – Empowering Your Erection (originally called Erectile Dysfunction) consisting of a 32 page eBook + 4 exclusive audios that men could download and do in the comfort of their own homes. This program aims to give you the power to heal, transform and empower your erection yourself with simple and very effective exercises based on the sessions I offer in person.

The digital program has received fantastic reviews and feedback and so far everyone that has used it (that has reported back) has felt huge benefits and improvements with their erections. Hurray! I’m absolutely over-the-moon thrilled about that!

Quite a few of the men who’ve used the digital program have asked if I would offer an in-person program to compliment the digital program. I thought that was a genius idea and so have created something really special as a response. The Empowering Your Erection Program is a bespoke program of in-person sessions, Skype sessions, email support and much more.

There are three different levels of exploration and support. You can choose from the 3 month Silver Program, the 6 month Gold program or the 9 month Platinum Program. Once you apply, you will be invited to a free 20 minute Skype chat so we can discuss your individual needs. Then I will create a bespoke Empowering Your Erection program just for YOU!

The beauty of this program is that it gives you the opportunity to fully commit to your personal sexual journey. You will be expertly guided and supported the whole way through. Working together over a period of time allows us to explore more deeply and really expand your possibilities for pleasure, intimacy and confidence with your erection.

If you’re ready to Empower Your Erection, boost your sexual confidence, learn techniques to last longer and have more pleasure then this program is for YOU! Apply now to transform your connection to your penis and your erection, to learn how to cultivate your sexual power and be the most confident, extraordinary and conscious sexual being you can be. ➞ Apply Now!

Find out more about The Empowering Your Erection Program here>>>>

P.S. As part of this program you will receive a complimentary copy of the digital Transform Your Sex Life Program – Empowering Your Erection. If you’ve already bought that program, I will reduct the price of it from this in-person program! ➞ Apply Now!


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Jul 292015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

 

 

Maintaining Your Erection For Life

Mental Health

So many factors can affect our mental health these days. Stress and worry about work, relationships, money, and of course, E.D. can really take a toll on our minds. Creating good practices for looking after your mental health will serve you well in all areas of your life, including your sex life.

Here are some ways to reduce mental stress:

  • Implement the suggestions above in the physical health section (see Part 1 here). They will also greatly help with mental health.
  • Get plenty of sleep and rest.
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal. Write down at least one thing you are grateful for each day. Gratitude puts your energy system into a state of high vibration, which is good for you on all levels. Feeling grateful can pull you out of a mental fog or bad mood. Finding even one thing you are grateful for each day can reduce stress and improve your mindset.
  • Find someone you can talk to. This could be a professional person, a good friend or relative.
  • Have a good laugh! Laughter is a great way to reduce stress and worry. Medically, laughter has been related to exercise, in that it releases feel-good chemicals in your body.

Emotional Health

Whatever society or family you’ve been born into, there’s a high chance that you were not taught how to feel your emotions or how to express them in safe and healthy ways. Quite often we are taught to ignore or suppress our emotions. This is not healthy and can sometimes cause illness.

Here are some ways to look after your emotional health:

  • Join a supportive men’s group. (If you’re in London, I recommend this one.)
  • Put on some music or a film that you know makes you feel emotional and allow yourself to have a damn good cry. Notice how good you feel afterwards.
  • When feelings come up that feel uncomfortable, see if you can relax, take some deep breaths and just allow yourself to feel whatever is there. It might help to allow your body to move as the feelings come up and out.
  • Have a good laugh – see above in the Mental Health section!
  • Get a pet! Studies show that people who have a pet at home have lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol and better overall health. Dogs in particular are known for being creatures of unconditional love and joy.

Spiritual Health

Spiritual health is a very individual thing. For some people it’s about feeling connected to Divine Intelligence, Source, the Universe, a higher knowing or greater good. For some people it’s about finding meaning and purpose in life. For others it’s about feeling compassion, love and joy in their lives. Often it is a blend of all or some of these things.

Here are some ways to nurture your spiritual health:

  • Learn meditation or attend a mindfulness class.
  • Spend some time out in nature – in a beautiful forest, by the sea, near mountains, whatever fills up your soul.
  • Figure out what makes your soul sing and do more of that.
  • Get creative – paint, draw, sing, write, dance, cook.
  • Volunteer somewhere that feels good to you.
  • Spend time enjoying a beautiful sunrise or sunset.
  • Learn how to play a musical instrument.
  • Let go of the past – it is no longer here. Be in the present moment.
  • Keep a gratitude journal.
  • Go on an adventure.
  • Travel to new places.
  • Step outside your comfort zone.
  • Do something kind or generous for another person.
  • Move your body! Dance, walk, go to an exercise class or whatever gets you moving.
  • Create a garden, grow your own plants or bring flowers into your home.
  • Have a big, deep belly laugh!
  • Notice beauty all around you.

Kiss your lover slowly, sensually, as if it was the first time. Allow yourself to feel really open, vulnerable and in love.

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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What people are saying about the Transform Your Sex Life Series:

‘Within two weeks of using Rebecca’s ebook I was able to have penetrative sex for the first time in my life – thank you so much Rebecca!!‘ Dan, 35

‘…the exercises are incredibly easy and empowering. Since starting, I’ve noticed two results – my erections are stronger, and an increase in the erotic “tingling” even when not erect.’ Kevin, 54

Read more…


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 222015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

 

Everyone’s experiences of E.D. will be different. Some men will notice improvements in their erection after doing [the exercises in the book] just once or twice. Most men will need to repeat the processes a few times.

It’s really important to support your healing journey in other ways too. Your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health are crucial to your overall sexual empowerment. Here are some ways you can support your health on these other levels. You’ll notice that many of the suggestions overlap and that’s because many of these suggestions are good for you on more than one level.

Physical Health

How you feel in your body and about your body have a huge impact on your ability to get and maintain your erection. If you feel lethargic, low on energy, bloated, uncomfortable in your body and so on, you might find it difficult to get or maintain your erection.

Here are some suggestions for looking after your physical health:

  1. Pay attention to what you eat

There is no one correct way to eat, regardless of what the latest diet trends might tell you. Everyone is different and different styles of eating work for different people. You probably already know what works for you and what doesn’t.

Start listening to your body. If you tune in and listen it will start to give you an indication of what it likes and can use in a healthy way, and what it doesn’t like and has difficulty processing. A really simple rule of thumb is to eat food that is as close to it’s natural state as possible and although it may sound boring, a balanced diet that considers moderation.

Healthy eating tips

  • Eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg.
  • Eat as organically as you can afford to.
  • Drink plenty of water. Again, the amount you need will depend on your lifestyle, but 2-3 litres a day is a good guideline.
  • TOP TIP – Cut out all processed foods and sugar! There’s just no arguing that processed foods and sugar are not good for your health. High amounts of sugar and salt are often hidden in processed foods. Cutting these out will make an enormous difference to your overall health, including your sexual health.
  1. Get some exercise

I used to get fed up of ‘healthy types’ spouting on about exercise. It made the rebel in me want to sit on the sofa even more. However, after an illness that kicked my butt, it was actually exercise that helped me get on the road to recovery on all levels. Guess those ‘healthy types’ were right.

Amongst other things, regular exercise helps keep the body’s systems regulated. I can’t overemphasize how important exercise is to your overall health, including your sexual health. Recent studies have shown that just a few minutes of exercise a day can help with all kinds of complaints such as backache and headaches as well as depression, low energy and much more.

Benefits of regular exercise, especially for E.D. includes:

  • Getting more blood flow around the body, including to the genitals
  • Getting more oxygen and nutrients flowing around the body, including to the
  • Clearing toxins and waste more effectively from tissues and cells
  • Boosts the immune system and metabolism
  • Building healthy muscle and losing unhealthy fat
  • More energy and stamina
  • Mental clarity and focus
  • Much more relaxed in hips and joints
  • General better health overall

The best thing for keeping up with regular exercise is to find two or three things that you enjoy and change them up to keep you motivated.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Go for a 10-minute walk once a day. Each week add 5 more minutes to your walk. You could walk around the block or go to a local park or track. Whatever helps motivate you! This one thing alone can change your life.
  • Get an exercise DVD that you can do in the privacy of your own home.
  • Join a gym and learn how to use the machines or weights
  • Find a weekend sports team to join – football, basketball, hockey – whatever sounds like fun!
  • Find a partner and play racquetball, tennis or other partnered sports you like.
  • Go to a yoga or Pilates class. These are excellent for keeping your body strong and supple.
  • Go dancing or take a dance class.
  • If you sit at a desk for work, get up and stretch or move around for 5-10 minutes in every hour.
  1. Other important tips for physical health
  • Reduce your caffeine intake. There have been articles circulating recently saying that two cups of coffee a day could help with E.D. Personally I think that’s a really bad idea. While that much caffeine might help you in the short term, in the long term it could have major drawbacks to your health.
  • Reduce your alcohol intake. This will not only help you with your overall health and E.D., but will also help to enhance intimacy and pleasure.

Stop smoking. Seriously. It has been well documented that men who smoke have a higher risk of E.D. Smoking greatly reduces the circulation to your genitals and you need that blood and oxygen flow to help you get an erection. Even as few as one or two cigarettes a day can reduce your chances of getting a good erection.

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 152015
 

Empowering Your Erection

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

When we don’t see the signs or listen our intuition, then our bodies will start to send signals such as an ache here or a pain there. If we continue not to listen then the body will escalate its attempt to get our attention – a pulled muscle, a back spasm, or a bigger injury, for example. If we still don’t listen the messages get louder and louder. This can result in bigger, more noticeable health issues or illnesses such as ‘dysfunctions’ of the body, cancer, adrenal exhaustion, etc.

Erectile dysfunction might be the first signal your body has sent you or part of a chain of ‘messages’ that started somewhere else in your body. When you start to pay attention to the signals your body is sending you, and see what they are trying to tell you, then you can bring healing and transformation to the situation.

E.D. could be a sign of

  • Shame or fear around sexuality (that was there before the E.D.)
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of being vulnerable
  • Fear of penetration
  • Shame passed down from the family around sexuality
  • Shame passed down from religion, the media and other outside authorities
  • Fear and shame of expressing your sexuality in a particular way
  • Fear of getting your partner pregnant
  • Shame and guilt around wanting to penetrate
  • Shame and guilt around not wanting to penetrate
  • Shame around wanting to be penetrated
  • Having been told you’re not good enough – and believing it or taking the message in to your body
  • Having received negative messages about your body or your penis
  • Fear of failure
  • Shock or trauma to the body
  • Excessive masturbation
  • Over use of porn
  • Worry or concern around sexual ‘performance’
  • Having had your boundaries crossed – sexually or otherwise
  • Feeling disempowered in your life generally
  • Feeling bored or ‘not aroused’ by life
  • Not being fully present in the moment
  • Being stuck in your head
  • Being exhausted
  • Being focussed on other things
  • Not feeling at ease in your body or with your penis
  • Gender issues

One or more of these things might apply to you. Or you might have your own unique reasons for experiencing E.D. The very good news is that healing and transformation are absolutely possible.

For many men this will mean being able to get some or all of your erection back. For some men it will mean learning how to be a magnificent lover whether you have a hard-on or not. Although society would tell you otherwise, it is not essential to have an erection to have amazing sex. Just taking the pressure off your cock to ‘perform’ and learning more about being an amazing lover will help!

The Transform Your Sex Life workbook takes you through four processes to get you back on the road to being, expressing and fully enjoying your sexuality, your sexual self. Each section has an audio recording to help and support you as you work your way through the book.

 You are totally amazing and on your way to being your best, most liberated sexual self ever!

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


Empower Your Erection


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 082015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

Read Part 2 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

Erectile dysfunction is an awful name for something that isn’t really a ‘dysfunction’ at all. It may appear to be a ‘dysfunction’ at first, but it is actually your body’s way of getting your attention.

There is usually something else going on, perhaps on an emotional or other level, which is actually behind the erectile dysfunction. I will say more about this later.

Some men may experience erectile dysfunction due to medical issues, such as having his prostate removed. Sometimes it might not be possible to get a full erection back. However, it is always possible to learn new ways to experience giving and receiving pleasure with your body. Erectile dysfunction is also sometimes known as E.D. or impotence. From now on, I’ll refer to it as E.D.

Typically, E.D. is when a man has difficulty getting and/or maintaining his erection. He might be able to get an erection in some situations and not others. For example he might have little or no trouble getting an erection on his own, but then have difficulty when he’s with a partner or lover. Or he might find it easy to get an erection, but not to sustain it, as he would like. This might happen just once or twice or can be an ongoing, long-term issue.

Even if a man has experienced E.D. just once, it can continue to cause a lot of stress and worry for him. Unfortunately we have this myth in our society that says that a man ‘should’ be able to get a big strong hard-on whenever he wants and ‘should’ be able to maintain it until he and his partner are fully satisfied. It is myths like this that cause so many men to feel inadequate and full of shame and fear around sexuality.

These feelings of inadequacy and shame lead to a lack of confidence, fear of being in a sexual situation and to always feeling ‘less than’. Not a good place to be! Especially as these feelings then radiate out into the rest of your life.

I’ve worked with hundreds of men over the years that tell me they have stopped initiating sex with their wives, girlfriends or lovers, or they’ve stopped looking for a partner. They have pretty much given up on sex altogether just because of the fear and shame they are feeling in regards to their ability to get or maintain an erection. This just leads to further shame and guilt and a downward spiral that isn’t good for anyone.

Many health professionals believe that E.D. can be caused by or is a sign of cardiovascular problems, high blood pressure, neurological problems, prostate cancer and more. I would beg to differ. I would say that all of these health issues, including the E.D., are part of a bigger picture. Usually there is a more personal, emotional, mental or spiritual cause that affects the erection as well as the physical health. Rather than E.D. being caused by or a sign of these things, I would say that all of these things together, including the E.D., are symptoms of something else going on in the system.

Our bodies have an extremely intelligent feedback system that lets us know when we are not paying attention to something in our lives (which could be mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually) or when something we think we believe in doesn’t line up with our greater Truth. You might know or feel intuitively that sex is a wonderful thing, a beautiful way to express yourself, and that pleasure is really good for you. However most of us grow up being told that sex, our bodies, and intimacy is shameful and that pleasure is something you have to earn.

When these negative, false messages get ingrained in us (and they do, on physical and energetic levels) it has a massive effect on how we live our lives and can eventually affect our health.

So it’s very likely that your E.D. is the Universe’s (Great Spirit, Divine Intelligence, Source, whatever word or concept works for you, it’s all the same) way of showing you where there’s a part of you that is holding on to fear, shame or guilt handed down by some source outside of you. Some outside authority that you thought knew better than you. Some part of you that you don’t love, a part of you that is experiencing anything other that perfect alignment with your magnificent self. It’s saying, ‘Hey, pay attention; I’ve been trying to tell you something for your growth and evolution. I love you.’

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Jun 102015
 

Why Size MattersRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about Why Size Matters and why it’s not at all what you might think.

Does size matter?

I gotta be honest, this question bugs the hell out of me. It immediately sets up competition, the falseness that one thing is better than another, the idea that there can be a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’.

It is an awful question that leads so many people to feeling really bad about themselves. Even if the answer is no, size doesn’t matter, the very existence of the question can lead some folk down a dark path of self doubt, and worse, self hate.

Size really doesn’t matter, however it’s our belief that size matters, that actually matters – if you get my drift.

There was a video going round the internet a few weeks back where different women, aged 18-50 were asked the question, Does size matter?

They were not asked ‘Does penis size matter’, but most of them took that to be the meaning of the question. There was a fairly even mix of answers. Some said yes, many said no. A few said it depends, or it just matters what you do with it.

On a very simple level, if you’re talking about penises, then that video pretty much sums it all up. Some people care about penis size, many don’t. Most are more concerned with connection and pleasure. That’s it.

However this question, Does size matter, this obsession with size, is just scratching the surface of something much more important.

Whether you’re talking about penises, breasts, muscles, labia, bellies, butts, thighs or anything else, we seem to have an unhealthy obsession with the size of the parts of our bodies and our bodies as a whole.

We love to judge ourselves and others based on if the size is ‘right’.

In the last couple of weeks I’ve had at least 3 men tell me that they were ashamed of their penises because they felt they were ‘too small’. This is a regular occurrence in my sessions and it breaks my heart.

I had a woman tell me that she’s never quite felt she was woman ‘enough’ because her breasts were ‘too small’.

On the other side of things I’ve had some men tell me that women had made rude comments about not wanting to have sex with them because their penises were ‘too big’.

I’ve also had several women tell me they were called sluts or some other derogatory term because they were big breasted.

What is the fucking obsession with size? Why do we have an idea that there is a ‘right’ size and a ‘wrong’ size? Why do we feel shame if we are not the ‘right’ size. Why do we shame others if they are not the size we prefer? Why do we listen to what anyone outside of us says and not just decide for ourselves what’s ok and what’s not. Why do we give our authority away to someone else?

‘Right’ size and ‘wrong’ size are arbitrary! What fits/looks good/gives pleasure/is preferred/feels good is different for everyone. One person’s ‘big’ is another person’s ‘small’. One person’s preference for small or large or whatever is perfectly OK! What society says is big or small now was different 50 years ago. It’s all made up!

Here is why size matters – or more accurately, why our beliefs about size matter and why we need to change them. Size matters because so many people are making themselves and others wrong, feeling shame, feeling not good enough because of how the think they ‘should’ be.

The obsession with size matters. The actual size, of any part of our bodies, does not matter. There is no right or wrong size. Yes, some people have preference, but preference for a particular size of breasts or penis doesn’t make the other sizes wrong. Your body is not wrong!

Please don’t look at other people’s bodies, either in real life or especially not in films or porn, and think that someone else’s body is better/worse or more right/wrong than yours.

All bodies are beautiful and perfect just as they are. All penises, breasts, muscles, labia, bellies, butts, thighs or anything else are just fine. If you can learn to love your body and your body parts just as they are, chances are you’ll attract the perfect person to you that also loves you and your body just the way it is.

Please go look in the mirror at your gorgeous naked body. Look how sensual and desirable you are! Do a little wiggle, shake your booty and stroke your delightful naked body all over. Tell your body that it is the perfect size and that you love it just as it is.


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Apr 272015
 

Sexual AlchemyRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, finds out that Sexual Alchemy is actually Quantum Physics and explains why that’s so exciting for her and transformational for you and the world!

Wowwww! I’ve just returned from doing Dr John DeMartini’s Breakthrough Experience! What an amazing weekend. Dr DeMartini is a Human Behaviour Specialist, author, teacher and speaker who travels the world teaching life mastery skills. The absolutely mind blowing thing, well, one of many, is that he actually explains the science behind it all – the science behind life mastery.

Now I’ve spent most of my lifetime being a bona fide ‘hippy’, new age-y, and spiritual person. I follow what I feel – in my heart, in my body, in my soul. I have generally been lead by my intuition, my inner guidance or what I sometimes lovingly call my inner SatNav.

This also applies to my work with sexuality. I don’t follow a medical model; I use energy and intention, intuition, vibration, breath. I align with a person’s energy field and set an intention according to where they say they want to go in relation to their sexual self, sexuality, etc and off we go. Sometimes focusing on breath or using touch or movement or whatever expedites this process. These things also help to empower people to transform themselves. I don’t want anyone dependent on me for their healing and transformation. That doesn’t serve anyone. I want to empower my clients to be masters of their own sex life.

Dr DeMartini pretty much explained the scientific workings of what I do!! He actually broke it down into quantum motherfucking physics and explained how my use of energy and intention, vibration, breath and touch works! I have always known that it works – I see incredible transformations in my practice every day. But I’ve never been able to explain it scientifically. I’ve always suspected that it could be explained scientifically, but didn’t know where to begin with that and, to be honest, wasn’t all that interested until recently.

I have always had a fear that if I couldn’t explain my work scientifically, if the ‘establishment’, the doctors and scientists couldn’t measure it, then I could only play small, keep quiet and stay under the radar.

Well that has all changed! Now I know that what I do is explainable by science, just not the science people kept pointing me to. It is way beyond anatomy and physiology. It’s quantum physics! That’s right, Sexual Alchemy is quantum physics!

Now I might not yet be able to repeat what Dr DeMartini took several hours to explain, but even knowing that it’s possible to explain that what looks like ‘hippy-dippy’ new-age practices and techniques are actually quantum physics fills me with huge joy, inspiration and gratitude.

I feel proud and also humble to be able to serve humanity in this way. It is an honour and a privilege. It is my life’s mission. I am going to help to transform humanity’s ideas and experiences of sexuality using Sexual Alchemy and Quantum motherfucking Physics! Look out world!

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Nov 032013
 

Man scary and shockedRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about the fear that people feel about booking a session and why you should do it anyway!

Just about everyone that comes to see me tells me that they are nervous or apprehensive about coming. They tell me in their emails beforehand and again when they first arrive at my home. I welcome them warmly, often with a hug, and we sit down for a chat. Often people are visibly nervous. A sweet, but ‘what-the-heck-am-I-doing-here’ look appears on their face. There is nervous laughter, fidgety bodies and tense breathing.

Yesterday a delightful man that has been coming to see me off and on for a couple of years told me that he still feels really nervous on the train on his way here. However he completely relaxes once he arrives, we have a deep hug and he remembers how welcomed and safe he feels with me.

I reckon that what people are afraid of is partly the unknown aspect of having a session, but even more, of facing themselves, of finally experiencing the deep intimacy they have always desired. Sadly most of us are brought up to value the mind and rational thought rather than to value and listen to our bodies and our inner desires. Outer desires are fine, that keeps us focused on ‘other’ and out of our bodies, away from ourselves.

Inner desires are the messages from our higher self/soul/universe (insert whatever word works for you here) that lead us to peace, happiness, joy, and ecstatic experiences of our sexual selves. We have been taught to fear these places within ourselves, to ignore them. So doing something to actively connect with those places could feel scary. Add to that the enormous amounts of shame that has been shovelled on top of our sexual beings over time and you’ve got a potential heady mixture of fear and terror about exploring those areas of ourselves.

The good news is that you can do almost nothing better for yourself, your total health and well-being, than to address, explore and celebrate your sexual self! How we feel about our sexual selves, our sexuality, has an effect on every other aspect of our lives. If we don’t feel confident, satisfied, happy about something in our sex life, the rest of our life and our health suffers too. By giving this aspect of ourselves some focussed time and attention we bring healing to all areas of who we are and our whole life too.

Whether you’re coming for a session to address something that isn’t quite working for you, to explore pleasure in whole new ways, to expand your sexual possibilities or something else entirely, it’s likely that you will feel a bit nervous at the beginning and that is totally ok. It is a positive sign that you are absolutely ready for an opening and expansive journey into your true sexual self.

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May 262013
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how men can learn to orgasm without ejaculation to last longer & have more pleasure.

Very often in my private practice men tell me that they want to learn to last longer and expand their pleasure during sex. Many men believe that they have to ejaculate to enjoy sex or masturbation and that once they’ve cum it’s all over.

The thing is, ejaculation and orgasm are two different things. Usually they occur at the same time unless a man learns to separate them. Ejaculation is the expulsion of semen from the body and orgasm is the delicious waves of pleasure and movement of energy through the body that often accompany it.

So why would a man want to learn to separate the two? Here are some of the many benefits:

  • Last longer during sex and masturbation
  • More control and choice over when you ejaculate
  • Experience wave after wave of orgasmic bliss for as long as you want
  • Circulating orgasmic energy throughout the body is very good for your health!
  • Have expanded orgasms – even full body orgasms!
  • Orgasm as long as you like without ejaculating

So if you want to last longer, enjoy sex more, expand your orgasms and even improve your health, learning to orgasm without ejaculation is just the thing for you! The great news is that it’s easier than you might think and fun too! I have helped hundreds of men learn to do this and would be thrilled to help you too.

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Dec 152012
 

Sacred Relationship

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares what she believes makes a ‘Sacred Relationship’.

I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and sacred.

What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after seven years together, do we still feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred Relationship?

Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:

Consciousness – Our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.

Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.

Owning our ‘stuff’ – So often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past with each other.

Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.

Commitment – We take time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily basis. Quality not quantity is important here.

Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.

Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each fuels and nourishes the other.

Being present.

Courage.

Tantra has taught me all of these things and more. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you either on your own or with your partner.

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Dec 152012
 

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Sexual Alchemist & conscious sexuality practitioner Rebecca Lowrie talks about how being truly present makes sex deeply intimate, and totally mind-blowing!

It happened in a phone shop on a normal high street in north London. I was waiting for my phone to be returned when the young man working in the shop asked me what I did for a living. I never know quite how to answer that question and various answers usually pop out of my mouth. ‘I teach sacred sexuality’, I told him. ‘Oh,’ he said.

I could almost hear the cogs of his brain turning. ‘So what could you teach me?’ he asked. Feeling it to be a genuine request, I asked him if he wanted to learn how to have the most mind-blowing sex ever. ‘Of course!’ he said, laughing a little nervously. Several other assistants and a customer were now paying attention. ‘Come here,’ I said. He came and stood in front of me, less than a foot away. ‘Relax… breathe… now bring yourself fully into this moment and look into my eyes’. He did exactly as I instructed and after about five seconds exclaimed, ‘Wow, ohmygod, what did you just do? That was amazing! AMAZING!’ He was ecstatic. All I did was request his full presence and offer him mine back. It’s that simple really. He was still muttering happily to himself when I left.

Being present is one of the most important, useful, joyful, mind-blowing things I’ve learned from my journey through tantra. Being really present in each and every moment is all there really is and yet we usually have our attention in the past or future.

Most of us are taught at a very early age how to distract ourselves. A friend once told me about a trip to a funfair where each time she got on a ride, her friend would say to her, ‘What are we going on next?’ She didn’t get to enjoy the ride she was actually on because her attention was constantly being drawn to the future. We all do this in one way or another. We reminisce about the past or worry about tomorrow, but rarely take time to just be where we are.

When we get really, truly present, the world changes completely! When I allow myself to be fully present with my partner, he is new and different in each and every moment! What a delight! Our relationship, our love making never gets old or stale because all the old moments are gone, dead. Here we are in this brand new moment that didn’t exist before, oh, and here’s another one. Who is this amazing man here with me right now, and right now and right now? It’s so exciting! Every time we touch, kiss, caress is like the first time!

Try this at home: (either with your Beloved or as a solo practice looking into your own eyes in a mirror) Sit quietly with your Beloved and softly, gently, look into each other’s eyes. Let your thoughts subside and allow yourself to be fully present with whatever ‘is’ in that moment and each new moment as it unfolds. Bring your awareness to your heart and allow love to flow – in and out. Behold your Beloved as they are in this instant. In this shared space, everything is fresh and new and anything is possible. In the unpredictability of each second, the magnitude of each breath, and the vitality of each moment, your passion for each other can be constantly rediscovered. If you regularly take the time to be present with yourself and with your Beloved, your ever-evolving selves will fill a lifetime with love, desire and deep intimacy.

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Tantric Beginnings>>>>

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Empower Your ErectionIf you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!