Feb 142017
 

Valentines DayRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about the importance of self-love and developing self-love practices.

Fuck Valentine’s Day. What a crazy idea! A greeting card company makes up a holiday so that people in relationships feel pressured to buy things for each other and people who are not in relationships feel isolated or shit about themselves.

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, the person you should be celebrating love with is yourself. Without proper self-love in place, there is no other relationship. No other sustainable relationship.

Self-love is the foundation for any other relationship.

Self-love is the garden bed in which we grow the fruits we can share with another.

Self-love, self-awareness and self-confidence. Without these any other relationship becomes a struggle, a falsehood, a sinking ship, a lie.

The Human Wound

The human wound, no matter where you’re from or how you were raised, is ‘I’m not enough’ or ‘I’m not good enough’. On a cosmic level that’s because we’ve forgotten that we ARE Source, God, Grace, the All-That-Is. We’ve forgotten that we are waves of the ocean of consciousness. We’ve forgotten that we ARE divinity and we are always trying to wake ourselves up. To re-member. To become whole again.

On top of that, our society reinforces this perceived separation every chance it gets. It tells us we need to be thinner, richer, smarter, whiter and so on. For many reasons, we hand over our power to something outside of us and believe, even more deeply, that we’re not enough unless we get/do/be/have the things someone outside of us (who has also forgotten) tells us we need.

Lack of self-love strips us of our power.

Learning to love yourself is a practice. It takes time to build the self-love muscles. Imagine going to the gym every day to get strong and build muscles only to leave the gym and be told that muscles are bad and wrong. This is sort of what it’s like trying to build self-love muscles. We are constantly submerged in a society that tells us that to love ourselves is selfish and bad.

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. Audre Lorde

A foundation of love

Let me tell you something. Without a foundation of self-love, there is no other love. If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t feel your worth, your value, then you are always a beggar for love. You are always coming to another half full, begging them to fill you up. When you learn to fill your own love cup you are never a beggar to love. You are rich and full and abundant and it is sustainable because it comes from within.

Self-love takes practice

Since we live in a world that wants to tear us down, that doesn’t value self-love, in fact, needs us to NOT love ourselves to sell us shit we don’t need, self-love is really an act of rebellion. And it’s needed now more than ever. On your road to self-love there will be obstacles. Some days will be harder than others. That’s ok. Be gentle with yourself. Love yourself through the difficult days. Extra self-love is needed on those days.

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Lucille Ball

Here are 10 ways you can practice self-love:

  1. Look into your own eyes in a mirror and say I love you. Say it a few times. See how it feels. Don’t worry if it feels odd or uncomfortable at first. Do it anyway. Open your heart a little bit and say it again. If it feels awkward try again the next day. Do it every day until it feels really good.
  2. Listen to your body’s needs. Your body is giving you information all the time. What is it telling you? What is it asking for? Does it need more exercise? A breath of fresh air? Would it like different food or to go dancing? Often you know very well what your body is telling you and you override it. Don’t do that. Love your body.
  3. Take yourself on a date. It can be fancy or not. It can be a daytime date or a night time date. You can go out where there are other people or go somewhere you can be alone. Do it with the intention to spend time with yourself. Get to know yourself a bit better. Enjoy yourself.
  4. Mind how you talk to yourself! Your words cast spells. Everything you think and say about yourself creates a vibration that goes into your body, your cells, your DNA and actually shifts your physiology and therefore your reality.
  5. Find at least one thing you appreciate about yourself every day. Ideally write these appreciations down somewhere. Keep them in a special journal or notebook. Then on days you are struggling to appreciate yourself you can look back at ones you’ve written on easier days. You can write lofty things such as ‘I appreciate that I’m kind and generous’ or simple things like ‘I appreciate that today I’m still breathing’ or ‘I appreciate that I make great toast’. It really doesn’t matter so long as you really mean it.
  6. Get outside in nature! Whether you consciously feel it or not, being out in nature resets your energy system. Go for a walk in the woods or along a stream. Breathe in some fresh air. Get up close to some trees and feel how deep their roots go. Allow your roots to go deep too. Stand with your back up against a tree and lean in, ask for some love or just feel it’s strength.
  7. Soak in a high vibe bath. Put some Dead Sea salts or essential oils or flower petals in a freshly drawn bath. Light some candles. Yes, I know it sounds clichéd, but it really works. Sink into the hot water and take some deep breaths. Focus on your out breath and let shit go! Bathe with the intention of letting go and relaxing or of soaking in the magic of whatever you’ve added to the bath.
  8. Read something that makes you feel good. Just one paragraph or page will do. Read some poetry or a self-help book or something funny. Anything that makes you feel good, that opens your heart, that reminds you that you are an amazing being.
  9. Practice sitting in silence for a few minutes every day. Sit or lie somewhere comfortable and set a timer – even 2-5 minutes will do. You might find when you start this practice that your mind thinks it’s time to get busy and throw thoughts at you. That’s fine. Just don’t pay them any attention. Let them float past like clouds in the sky. Let them go as quickly as they arrive. After a while they will stop trying to get your attention.
  10. Masturbate! Be mindful of your intentions when you do. Whatever you are feeling or holding in your mind as you raise arousal will get increased. If you are feeling shame or guilt or fear, then those will get reinforced. If you are feeling love for yourself, if your heart is open and you’re masturbating as a path to self-pleasure, then you will be reinforcing your value and worth. 

Self-love, self-awareness, self confidence… these are more important now than ever before! The practice of self-love is absolutely revolutionary. Please practice it every day, in whatever way you can.

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Jul 162016
 

Words we use for genitals and sexuality

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, ponders the words we use for genitals and sexuality.

Woke up this morning thinking about how the words we use for our genitals are also used as swear words. And how we use words like naughty, dirty and filthy are used to mean someone who is very sexual or acts that are considered less than vanilla or mainstream.

How we language ourselves and our world is very important. Our words have energy and cast spells. Using words that have a negative connotation or are derogatory to describe our bodies and our sexuality is troublesome to say the least. It reinforces the idea and energy that sexuality is bad or shameful.

I wish there was an easy way to change this, to choose better language for how we describe our bodies, our genitals and our sexuality.

These are just my early morning ponderings. What are your thoughts about this? What better language could we use? I’d love to hear your thoughts! You can email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com or leave a message below the video over on YouTube. I look forward to hearing from you!

 


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Jun 012016
 

Who is your true sexual self?Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, ponders questions about who we are as sexual beings.

Most of us have been conditioned to believe there is a right or wrong around sexuality, sexual expression and who we are as sexual beings. However, apart from consent, that is not true. Assuming consent is in place, there is no inherent right or wrong way to be sexual, to express your sexuality. There is no inherent way to enjoy pleasure and intimacy.

Most cultures, religions, societies, families, etc have created rules and regulations, social mores and laws about what is and isn’t ok. We try to fit into these rules so that we feel like we belong. Because it doesn’t feel safe to not belong. Fear of being ostracised, left out, made fun of or worse, left to die, causes us to dampen down who we are. We shut off our natural urges, our natural desires. Worse, we make our natural urges and desires wrong.

We get infected with the thought that there is a ‘right’ way to be sexual and if we aren’t that way inclined, then we are bad, wrong, guilty and worthless.

So, who would you be if you had no conditioning about sex and sexuality? If you had never been taught that there was a right or wrong way to express your desires, how would you express them? If all consensual expressions of pleasure, intimacy and sexuality were ‘allowed’, how would you and your life change?


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Mar 142016
 

#MeditationMondays #2, Using Your SensesRebecca Lowrie shares her new #MeditationMondays video, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World.

Welcome to #MeditationMondays #2, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World. In this meditation you are guided to tune in to five of your senses; touch, sound, smell, taste and sight.

Relax and unwind as you go on a journey to experience your world, your surroundings, just as they are, in the present moment.

This meditation is good for you if you want to

  • Practice being more present
  • Fine tune your senses
  • Be guided and held as you relax
  • Experience the sensuality of the present moment
  • Learn to cultivate more pleasure and connection

I really hope you enjoy it. If you do, please pop over to YouTube and give it a ‘thumbs up’ or email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what other meditations you’d like to see. Happy meditating!


Rebecca LowrieRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Mar 132016
 

Because of our wisdomRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, reads the poem ‘Because Of Our Wisdom’ by Hafiz on Anchor.fm.

I discovered the poetry of Hafiz about 10 years ago, right around the same time I started exploring and working with conscious sexuality.

Hafiz was a 14th century Persian poet, writer, mystic and spiritual teacher. His writings explore love, life and intimacy, in particular with intimacy with the Divine. His beautiful, thought-provoking poetry has been known to inspire other writers such as Emerson, Nietzsche and apparently even Arthur Conan Doyle.

I have been trying out the new Anchor.fm app for the last couple of weeks and have already made some incredible connections there. The app is sort of like Twitter except it’s all audio instead of writing. I was inspired one morning to read some Hafiz and wanted to share it with you here. I hope you enjoy it!

Because Of Our Wisdom

In many parts of this world water is

Scarce and precious.

People sometimes have to walk

A great distance

Then carry heavy jugs upon their

Heads.

Because of our wisdom, we will travel

Far for love.

All movement is a sign of

Thirst.

Most speaking really says,

‘I am hungry to know you.’

Every desire of your body is holy;

Every desire of your body is

Holy.

Dear one,

Why wait until you re dying

To discover that divine

Truth?


Rebecca Lowrie

Rebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Mar 072016
 

#MeditationMondays #1Rebecca Lowrie starts a new video meditation series called #MeditationMondays and invites you to take part.

I was recently having a conversation with a friend about the different ways we both meditate and how useful we both find it. My favourite way to meditate is in the sauna! Since I can’t get there as often as I’d like, I also have other ways that I like to meditate.

Sometimes I do it sitting still, other times I do it as a walking meditation, either in my suburban neighbourhood or in the woods. Occasionally I’ll make the ‘mundane’ into a meditation. For example, I quite often turn doing the washing up, or tidying the house into a mediation. I do that by getting as present as I can to what I’m doing. I open my heart and allow gratitude to flow. I might feel gratitude that I have running water and soap to wash the dishes, gratitude for the meal we’ve just eaten and gratitude for my full belly. As I practice being present, the gratitude flows and the chores get done with ease rather than conflict.

I often use guided meditations in private sessions or workshops and have decided to do a little experiment. For the next month, I will put out a new #MeditationMonday video each week with a new, guided meditation for you. If I enjoy doing them and they are fairly well received, I will continue to make them.

This first #MeditationMonday video is Blending Earth Energy With Sexual Energy. I really hope you enjoy it. If you do, please pop over to YouTube and give it a ‘thumbs up’ or pop me a note at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com to let me know you would like more. Happy meditating!


Rebecca Lowrie

Rebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Jan 142016
 

Rebecca Lowrie at 50

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, reflects on turning 50 and what that means for the next 50 years.

What were you doing on New Year’s Eve this year? Partying, spending time with family, reflecting on the past year and thinking about your year ahead?

I was celebrating my 50th birthday.

You could say I was equally ready and thrilled and also a little bit shocked. I mean, 50!

Sounds so old in some ways and yet I feel like I’m just warming up! There’s so much I still want to accomplish and do and create and experience.

Just Getting Started

It fascinates me and gives me hope that great people such as Louise Hay and Steven Covey didn’t start their life’s work until later in their 50’s.

I often get emails from men saying, I’m having this or that problem, and I’m in my 50’s, so it’s probably my age.

No! It’s usually nothing to do with your age! There are plenty of people our age who are perfectly healthy with great sex lives.

Whatever it is, it’s more likely down to the culmination of your conditioning, thoughts, habits and beliefs. I can help you clear, heal and transform those!

Maybe if we believe that we go downhill with age, that’s what we create.

I choose to believe that I’m going to age like a fine wine or a smelly cheese – the older the better!

I feel excited and energised about turning 50. I feel like now I can really focus in on making a difference in the world. I know myself so much better now than I ever did when I was younger.

Dr John Demartini RebeccaLowrie.com 50

In May of 2015 I did a workshop with Dr John Demartini. He asked us what our 100-year goal was. What legacy did we want to leave? How did we want the world to be different because we were in it?

That question has stayed with me ever since. It’s such a big question! Why aren’t we asked that when we’re younger and looking for direction and purpose?

I don’t think I have a complete answer to it yet, but here’s what I’ve got so far:

My 100 Year Goals

  • In 100 years’ time, when I’ve been dead for about 50 years (I’m planning to live to 100!), I would like humanity to have evolved beyond fear, shame and guilt around sexuality.
  • I would like the majority of the population to feel liberated and free to own, enjoy, celebrate and fully embrace their sexual nature, their sexual selves.
  • I would like humanity to have a much deeper understanding and experience of sexual energy and of their own true power.
  • I would like there to be a much deeper understanding of how our sexual energy is meant for so much more than the sex we currently know and I would like to have obliterated the limited belief for many that sex = penetration.
  • I would like humanity to be living much more authentically as a whole, in harmony and balance with the self, each other, nature, animals, the stars the planets and to understand how their sexual energy plays a crucial role in that.
  • I would like humanity to understand, fully and deeply, that we must own and accept all of who we are, our light and our dark, our hero and our villain, our sinner and our saint  in order to live our truth, in order to be really present and authentic, in order to create nourishing relationships.
  • Ultimately, I would like to have done my part to help heal what I believe is the greatest human wound, the ‘I’m not enough’ or ‘I’m not good enough’ wound.

RebeccaLowrie.com 50Mistakes And Wisdom

Thankfully, if I’m going to live to 100, I have another 50 years to create and leave my legacy. In some ways it doesn’t feel like nearly enough time. I mentioned that to a friend recently. She pointed out that 50 years ago it was illegal to be gay in many countries and states and now, in many places, we have marriage equality finally blossoming.

So if I have another 50 years, that means I have my whole life to live over again! Only this time I have the added advantage of having already made a whole bunch of mistakes. This time I can avoid those particular mistakes and make some brand new ones. Hopefully that will help me learn quicker. Also, I don’t have the same fear of mistakes and failure as I used to.

Since I’m starting this part of my life with some experience and wisdom under my belt, I can make different choices moving forward. I can make choices that nurture my soul instead of hurt or squash it. I can be more conscious about who I hang around with, what I eat and how I spend my time.

I am so grateful for the glorious, messy, wonderful, painful and very rich 50 years I’ve already had, and I can’t wait to see what the next 50 years bring.

RebeccaLowrie.com 50

RebeccaLowrie.com 50

 


If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!


 

Oct 232015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her Empowering Your Erection Program with Dr Martha Tara Lee on the Eros Evolution Radio Show.

I was honoured to be asked to appear on Dr Lee’s radio show to talk about my Empowering Your Erection digital program.

We had a great time chatting about sexuality in general and in particular, the connection between sexuality and spirituality. We talked about the importance of presence, breath and self-enquiry as paths to having expanded and deeper experiences of sex and sexuality.

Martha also asked me about why I created the Empowering Your Erection program and how a digital product can help men with erection issues. I talked her through the program and told her how each section is based on the private sessions I’ve offered to men over the last 10 years. Have a listen to find out more…

 

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Sep 282015
 

In this video, Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, guides you through a breathing technique to help you connect your sexual energy to your heart. 

There are lots of reasons for connecting your sexual energy to your heart. For starters, our sexual energy on it’s own is a bit like electricity with no where to go. When it is channelled up to the heart, it fills up and lights up our bodies, it brings extraordinary healing life force energy with it that fills our cells and the very fibres of our beings. When sexual energy connects with the heart, both sexual energy and heart energy are supercharged and transformed into something much greater than the sum of their parts.

[bctt tweet=”When your sexual energy and your heart are connected, your experiences of both are expanded.”] Your sexual energy is not just located or experienced in your genitals, but can now flow upwards through your body, giving you an expanded sexual experience. You can feel your arousal and pleasure throughout more of your body. Sexual energy can heal and help open your heart which allows you to be more intimate with all of life.

Sexual energy and the heart are meant to work together. Practice the exercise in the video for a while and see how your experiences of your sexual energy change and transform over time. I’d love to hear how you get on. Please leave me a comment below the video over on YouTube or email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you experience as you do the practice and how it changes your connection to your sexual energy, your genitals, your heart or anything else you notice. Have fun with it!


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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

If you enjoyed this video, please give it a ‘thumbs up’ over on YouTube, leave me a lovely comment and share freely with your friends and followers. Thanks so much!

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual AlchemistRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Sep 212015
 

Empowering Your ErectionRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, announces her brand new Empowering Your Erection Program and explains why you should apply now!

Over the last 10 years I’ve had the joy and pleasure of working with at least 2000 men and their sexual issues. One of the most frequent things I’ve seen is men wanting to work with erection issues. Whether they’re experiencing full blown erectile dysfunction or just want to feel more confident with the erections they have, many men are looking for permission, liberation, healing and empowerment with their erections.

Earlier this year I released a digital, multimedia program, The Transform Your Sex Life Series – Empowering Your Erection (originally called Erectile Dysfunction) consisting of a 32 page eBook + 4 exclusive audios that men could download and do in the comfort of their own homes. This program aims to give you the power to heal, transform and empower your erection yourself with simple and very effective exercises based on the sessions I offer in person.

The digital program has received fantastic reviews and feedback and so far everyone that has used it (that has reported back) has felt huge benefits and improvements with their erections. Hurray! I’m absolutely over-the-moon thrilled about that!

Quite a few of the men who’ve used the digital program have asked if I would offer an in-person program to compliment the digital program. I thought that was a genius idea and so have created something really special as a response. The Empowering Your Erection Program is a bespoke program of in-person sessions, Skype sessions, email support and much more.

There are three different levels of exploration and support. You can choose from the 3 month Silver Program, the 6 month Gold program or the 9 month Platinum Program. Once you apply, you will be invited to a free 20 minute Skype chat so we can discuss your individual needs. Then I will create a bespoke Empowering Your Erection program just for YOU!

The beauty of this program is that it gives you the opportunity to fully commit to your personal sexual journey. You will be expertly guided and supported the whole way through. Working together over a period of time allows us to explore more deeply and really expand your possibilities for pleasure, intimacy and confidence with your erection.

If you’re ready to Empower Your Erection, boost your sexual confidence, learn techniques to last longer and have more pleasure then this program is for YOU! Apply now to transform your connection to your penis and your erection, to learn how to cultivate your sexual power and be the most confident, extraordinary and conscious sexual being you can be. ➞ Apply Now!

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Sep 142015
 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, introduces the concept of ‘Saunatating’ and explains why it is good for your sex life.

Over the years I’ve explored a lot of different ways to connect in to Source or the Universe, or Infinite Intelligence or whatever you want to call it. For ease, I’m mostly going to call it Source but you can insert whatever word works best for you.

[bctt tweet=”Sex can be an amazing way to tune in to Source, in fact it’s my favourite way! “]For some people, that connection might happen naturally during sex. However, for most people it’s necessary to consciously pave the road to Source in other ways so that when you’re having sex or being sexual in some way, that road is there for you to travel.

Part of cultivating a deeper connection to your sexual self, in fact, all of your self, is taking time to be still, ‘tune in’ and listen, receive, heal or just be.

Becoming a better lover or businessperson or husband or anything, requires some on-going self development, self-evolvement, growing and expanding your understanding of yourself, others and the world around you.

Saunatating is my latest way of doing just that for myself. If you haven’t guessed it from the photo yet…

Saunatating = meditating in the sauna!

Makes sense now, right?

For me, meditating in the sauna works wonders! I do try to meditate at other times, in other places, but I’m often too easily distracted. I find I want to check my emails or get something to eat or go to the loo. My mind won’t settle and my body feels uncomfortable or at least my mind thinks it is.

When I’m in the sauna, my body instantly starts to relax. The heat feels so sensual and sort of like being held in a warm embrace. I absolutely cannot check my email or phone or read a book or be distracted in any other way. Yes, sometimes there are other people in there chatting, but I can tune them out.

I close my eyes and first take in the gorgeous smell of the wood and feel the heat starting to penetrate my skin. I love the contrast of entering the sauna feeling kind of cold and the sensation of my body starting to warm up. I set an intention for my body to release anything that no longer serves me through my sweat.

Once I’m settled and have set my intention, I focus my awareness inside my body and start checking in with my endocrine system. I want to see how it’s all working and if the glands are working in harmony. If they’re not, I listen to what they need and we find a way to create balance together.

Then I check in with the rest of my body, my internal organs, my bones, etc – sort of like a team meeting. I like greeting the different inner parts of my body, giving them some love, attention and focus – and they love it too!

Note: You could start anywhere you like or feel drawn to inside, the endocrine system is just where I like to start.

Eventually I start to feel out into the ether, beyond my body, into what I call the Matrix or the Quantum Field. Different things begin to happen.

Sometimes my body searches for the perfect template of health so it can align itself to that. Sometimes it feels like deep healing is happening and almost always, deep relaxation. I keep widening my awareness in all directions around me, allowing myself to become a bit bigger, to stretch and expand energetically.

More often than not I start to get clarity around things that are going on in my life at that time. I might hold a particular question, problem or thought in my mind as I begin to travel outwards and see where I end up.

Very often I get incredible inspiration, thoughts and solutions.

I’ve ‘downloaded’ entire blog posts, answers to difficult emails or situations and parts of several books that I’m writing, just by tuning in and ‘listening’.

sauna.5All in all, this whole process usually takes about 20 minutes. Either I slowly start to become aware of my body again, or I become aware of the heat and my own sweat. If I feel like the process is complete, I might have a swim or just go for a shower. If I feel like there is a bit more inspiration to be had, I take a cool shower, maybe swim a bit and take some time to cool down before one more go in the sauna.

Saunatating at least once a week helps me to stay relaxed, calm and focused. It also provides a great way for me to tune in to Source, which gives me enormous inspiration and feels good to my body, mind and soul.

Practicing these things allows me to apply them to my sex life.

I find it easier to drop out of my head space and into an embodied space with myself or my lover. When I open my body, heart and soul in a sexual situation it usually leads me to a Source connection too – which, by the way, is utterly amazing!

Practicing connecting to Source on my own fills me up, and helps me to bring my full self to sexual situations. Saunatating helps keep the pathways to Source open and flowing so that I have access in my every day life and especially when I’m aroused and being sexual.

How do you tune in to Source or to your inner ‘self’? Do you have a regular practice? I’d love to hear what works for you.

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Aug 272015
 

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex lifeRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares the 2nd edition of  ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ to help transform your sex life.

Welcome to the 2nd edition of Magical Monthly Morsels! Last month I said I would do a 3-month experiment of publishing a monthly roundup of articles related to sex, sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Here is your second dose!
A little reminder…

  • As before, I’ve read, or at least scanned, all of them and chosen the ones that I feel may have value for you.
  • I may or may not agree completely with each article, but if I feel it’s interesting, offers a unique point of view, is a bit of fun or would serve you to expand your sexuality in some way, then I’ll include it.
  • You can read all of them, some or none of them – whatever works for you! These are random and not in any particular order. I’ll do one more monthly round up next month and then you can tell me if you’d like more. 

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex life

Here’s this month’s ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ for you:

1. Article in the Guardian about some recent sexual fetish research. It appears that these academics were surprised to find that there are ‘few limits to erotic desire’. Silly academics!

2. Sex with Robots is predicted to be the ‘norm’ in 50 years. Not sure what to make of this! What do you think?

3. Results from a survey of 500 straight women about what bothers them in bed. Interesting results.

4. Eye-opening article where 24 people share the ‘weirdest’ places they’ve masturbated.

5. Is Conscious Kink For Everybody? A great article by my dear friend and colleague, Seani Love.

6. Short article about how watching porn affects your brain. Obviously there are lots of kinds of porn, not all ‘bad for you’, so this is a very generalised view, not looking at any nuances at all.

7. Why men can’t be friends with women they fancy. This is a FANTASTIC article, one I wish I’d written myself. When I posted it on my Facebook page it had over 4000 views!

8. Good article about mistakes you might be making in your online dating profile.

9. Great article about how music can give you a skin orgasm (although I’d say the feeling they’re talking about goes right through the body, not just the skin.

10. Raising awareness about disability and sexuality, this woman posed for sexy pics to make a point.

11. 10 Lessons about the female orgasm. Not all great suggestions, but a few good’uns.

12. The most beautiful vulvas in nature. Ok, she calls them vaginas, but they’re vulvas and they’re beautiful.

13. Good article about gender stereotypes by the lovely Nick Clement who I had the pleasure to meet and work with recently.

14. How to have sex like you mean it – a fantastic article by the lovely Cyndi Darnell whose Atlas of Erotic Anatomy I told you about last week.

15. Another article about sex and technology.

16. And finally, here’s the most recent articles I’ve posted on my blog:

Personas And Archetypes – Magical Ways To Expand Your Sexual Horizons

Too Tired For Sex? 4 Tips To Maintain Intimacy And Connection

Hope you find something enjoyable, educational or interesting amongst these articles. Would love to hear from you about what you’d like to see more of. Drop me an email at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what’s up for you right now.

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Aug 192015
 

Too Tired For Sex?

 

 

 

 

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, says it’s normal to feel too tired for sex sometimes and shares 4 tips to help you maintain intimacy and connection.

Have you ever been feeling all turned on and in the mood for love only to discover that your partner is just too tired? With busy lives, work, kids and all the other things that require our time and energy, chances are that this has happened to you.

Perhaps you were the one who was too tired. Perhaps you’re both too tired. It’s normal and bound to happen at some point during a long-term relationship.

How do you keep the intimacy alive and the flames burning when one or both of you are just too tired to get physical?

Here are 4 tips to help you maintain your intimacy and connection, even when your energy levels don’t quite match your desires:

  1. Communicate – If you’re the one feeling too tired, let your partner know that you love them and of course, still desire them, but currently don’t have the energy to get super active. If you want to, you could negotiate other ways to be intimate and connect sensually. If you’re the one being told, ‘No, I’m too tired’, then listen with an open heart. Listen to what your partner is actually saying rather than twisting their words. Sometimes, instead of hearing your partner’s truth about being tired, you just hear all the rejection you ever had in your whole life. Stay present. Allow yourself to see that your partner isn’t rejecting you, they are being true to their own needs at that time. That’s wonderful! They are saying Yes to themselves! If one or both of you regularly feels too tired, have a discussion about that. Take turns talking about how it feels, without placing or taking blame. It can feel very vulnerable to say that you’re too tired for sex. Speak and listen with compassion. Learning to speak your truth and also to hear what’s really being said will keep things clear between you.
  1. Be patient – with yourself and your partner.
  1. Reframe your ideas of ‘sex’ and find other ways to connect – Get creative. If you’re the one that’s too tired, be clear about your boundaries and what you may or may not have to offer. If you are the one who’s raring to go, be open to getting your needs met in a different way. Here are some things you could try instead of full-on penetrative sex:
  • Masturbate in front of your partner, while they stroke your hair and love on you.
  • Get comfy and kiss, deeply and passionately – without any expectation for things to go further.
  • Hold each other close and watch a film you both love.
  • Curl up together and tell each other fantasies you’d like to explore another time.
  • Slow dance and breathe each other in with love.
  • Slow, sensual oral sex.
  • Stroke each other’s bodies with love and full presence.
  1. If the tiredness is a long-term issue, look at how you can make some simple but effective changes to your life – 
  • Take any small steps you can to reduce stress. What things can you easily change to allow more time for relaxation and rest?
  • Make sure to eat healthily and get some exercise. Good, nutritious food is fuel for the body and mind and so is exercise. It will actually give you more energy!
  • Learn some simple breathing techniques to calm you down and help you relax.
  • Switch off the telly or computer at least half an hour before bedtime. Try to get some early nights or late mornings until you feel rested.
  • Learn to say NO. Sometimes we feel pressured to always say yes to things – to doing that extra bit of work, going out in the evening, helping a friend, etc, when what we really need is to look after ourselves.
  • If the tiredness persists over a long period of time, pop into your doctor’s for a check-up.

Most of all, remember that you are a team. [bctt tweet=”You have to work together to make the relationship work well and to keep intimacy open and flowing.”] What affects one of you will affect both of you and the relationship. Help each other to stay open and present to the current situation and find a way forward.

How do you navigate these times? With love, care and commitment.

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Aug 052015
 

Personas and archetypes – Magical ways to expand your sexual horizons

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, discusses personas and archetypes and how working with them can help you to explore and expand your sexual horizons.

In the workshops I’ve run and in my private sessions, I absolutely love to work with personas and archetypes to help people learn more about themselves as sexual beings. Using personas and archetypes gives people permission to explore the places in them that might otherwise feel unfamiliar, powerful, ‘yucky’, dangerous, too much, too sexual, exciting and all kinds of other things they might have difficulty accessing or expressing.

The Costume Shop

Over the last few years, in some of the workshops I’ve run, I presented an exercise that was called ‘The Costume Shop’. It was a fun, playful, sexy and often very illuminating way to get people to explore different aspects of their ‘sexual selves’.

Several hours after teaching it at a particular festival a woman came running across the field towards me saying, ‘Thank you thank you thank you THANK YOU!’ She caught up with me and told me that I’d changed her and her husband’s sex life forever and that they were both over the moon!

In the workshop, as we played with different personas, she had discovered, for the first time ever, her ‘inner Dominatrix’ – a part of her that had until then eluded her but that her husband had always hoped would blossom. She had discovered a new, unknown part of herself and allowed it to open her up to new possibilities.

After running the exercise successfully for a few years, I started to teach with a colleague, Seani Love, and we included it in some of our workshops. Only this time we expanded on it.

Now, instead of just trying on the ‘costume’ of different sexual personas, we guided people to invite the archetype or persona to rise up from within, to come express itself through this willing person. It is a very different feeling and process to just ‘trying it on’ for fun.

This made the exercise a lot deeper – more fun for some and more challenging for others. Either way it was a great teacher and way to find different parts of your self, especially your sexual self, that had been hidden or forgotten about, suppressed or not yet discovered. It was always very very powerful. Each archetype or persona brings it’s own flavour and wisdom.

Personas vs archetypes

The difference between a ‘persona’ and an ‘archetype’ is not an exact science and they definitely cross over in places. However, generally speaking, a persona could be said to be an exaggeration of a personality trait, a characteristic or a role that someone might play in their life. An archetype is a more of a universal pattern that exists in the collective consciousness, something that could be recognised across cultures and societies, often embedded in our subconscious.

Seani would also separate out what he called Godforms. These would be the Gods and Goddesses of various cultures and myths, the Divine Beings, not necessarily related to any religion, but more of a spiritual nature.

Each persona, archetype and Godform has a ‘light’ side and a ‘shadow’ side. Each side is equally important and can teach us something about ourselves. Although it may not appear so at first, no persona, archetype or Godform is intrinsically good or bad. They just are what they are and offer us an amazing opportunity to know ourselves better and deeper, to open up and expand ourselves, our sexual selves and our experiences in the world.

Examples of personas:

  • The busy bee
  • The ‘good girl’ or ‘good boy’
  • The Sacred Slut
  • The intellectual
  • The Dominatrix or submissive
  • The ‘know-it-all’

Examples of archetypes:

  • The Father or Mother
  • The Trickster or Fool
  • The Innocent
  • The Hero or Villain
  • The Rebel
  • The Lover

Examples of Godforms:

  • Shiva or Shakti
  • Isis, Osiris or Horus
  • Kali
  • Pan
  • Aphrodite

Private Sessions

In my private sessions I love encouraging people to explore different parts of themselves using personas, archetypes and Godforms as a map. Often these aspects will arise naturally as we clear whatever has been blocking them in the past. It could be a part of a person that needs deeper healing, connection and often, sexual expression. Sometimes it’s obvious why a particular persona or archetype has come up and other times it’s a surprise.

Sometimes we decide in advance which persona or archetype we’d like to work with (and why) and then together we invite these aspects to come out – to ask for what they need. We can then use touch, connection, movement, breath, sound, sexual intimacy and more to nurture, feed and encourage them.

This allows a person to expand beyond their conditioning, to learn more about their full, true self, to receive healing to specific parts of themselves, to awaken dormant parts, to be witnessed, to take their power back and much more.

Sometimes a part comes forward that wants healing, holding and loving. Sometimes it is a part that has particular desires and wants to explore having those met. Sometimes we are guided through different rituals or ways to integrate the ‘persona’ with the person. I never know for sure exactly what might happen, but some kind of magic always unfolds.

I’ve seen people uncover lost parts of themselves, remember ancient desires and fantasies, discover parts of themselves they never even knew existed and find their way back to empowerment – both sexually and generally, through exploring and playing with personas and archetypes.

Venturing into these places in yourself, opening them up and exploring them in a safe, held space allows you to know yourself better, to have access to deeper parts of yourself, to have more inner resources and access to deep wisdom.

Exploring your sexual self through personas and archetypes can give you permission to expand your sexual wings, to try new things and meet new parts of yourself. It can open up doors to whole new realms of sexual possibility and pleasure.

Integrating these powerful parts of yourself can make you more confident, more whole, more sure of who-you-really-are, more connected to yourself, your lovers and the world in general.


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Jul 312015
 

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex lifeRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ to help transform your sex life.

As you know, over the last few months, I’ve been experimenting with new things and new ways to help you embrace, celebrate and transform your sex life.

Often, as I move through my week, I get to read a lot of articles on the interwebs about sex and sexuality. Some are fantastic, some are not quite as good but still interesting, and some, well, are kind of rubbish.

I’m going to do a little experiment over the next three months of posting and sending you ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ – a collection of articles I’ve read, or at least scanned, that I think may have value for you.

I may or may not agree completely with each article, but if I feel it’s interesting, offers a unique point of view, is a bit of fun or would serve you to expand your sexuality in some way, then I’ll include it.

You can read all of them, some or none of them – whatever works for you! These are random and not in any particular order.

Magical Monthly Morsels to help transform your sex life

Here are this month’s ‘Magical Monthly Morsels’ for you:

1. This was a really lovely article from a man who’s spent 26 years researching sex.

2. Wanna decorate your home with beautiful vulvas? Here are some suggestions for how to do just that.

3. Lovely article about how being trapped in the ‘man box’ can hold you back from being who you really are.

4. How to capture the energy of masturbating to power your USB devices! This article is particularly aimed at the energy you create when watching porn, but porn isn’t at all necessary to get the benefits of interesting contraption.

5. How technology is impacting our sex lives. Some interesting and some slightly disturbing points!

6. Ok, this article about the current state of affairs with porn was just too long, so I admit I didn’t read it all. I did scan through most of it. I liked the author’s final comment: ‘We should be worrying about the kind of society that would lead to the types of pornography we find distasteful in the first place – and work on fixing that society rather than blaming its inevitable result.’

7. Info about different sexual positions. Not the most important part of sexuality, but could be helpful for some.

8. Guys, the size of your penis really doesn’t matter! Here’s an article I found on the interwebs about that, and here’s an article I wrote about that recently.

9. The title of this one says it all, ‘Anal sex: What you need to know’. Slightly annoying format but good info.

10. Here are 50 suggestions for getting your erotic juices flowing.

11. Nice article about what ‘old people’ know about sex that you don’t.

12. One woman’s experience of rediscovering sex after divorce.

13. Good article about the various possibilities for sexual pleasure and orgasm that are open to men, but that many men don’t know about or cultivate. Here are two bonus articles about that, that I wrote a while ago – one is here, and the other is here.

14. Thoughts about things men do that turn women off in bed. Not a bad list, although, of course, some of these are subjective.

15. And while we’re at it, 3 things that men say bother them in bed.

16. Simple but sweet article about how to actually sleep better together.

17. And finally, here’s the most recent articles I’ve posted on my blog. They are free excerpts from my new multimedia solution for men with E.D.

Transform Your Sex Life – A Word About Erectile Dysfunction, Part 1 and Part 2

Transform Your Sex Life – Maintaining Your Erection For Life, Part 1 and Part 2.

Please let me know which articles you liked and what sort of things you’d like to see in next month’s list. If you enjoy receiving these lists after 3 months, I’ll carry on with them, otherwise we’ll just put it down to experience! I am here FOR YOU afterall!


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Jul 292015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

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Maintaining Your Erection For Life

Mental Health

So many factors can affect our mental health these days. Stress and worry about work, relationships, money, and of course, E.D. can really take a toll on our minds. Creating good practices for looking after your mental health will serve you well in all areas of your life, including your sex life.

Here are some ways to reduce mental stress:

  • Implement the suggestions above in the physical health section (see Part 1 here). They will also greatly help with mental health.
  • Get plenty of sleep and rest.
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal. Write down at least one thing you are grateful for each day. Gratitude puts your energy system into a state of high vibration, which is good for you on all levels. Feeling grateful can pull you out of a mental fog or bad mood. Finding even one thing you are grateful for each day can reduce stress and improve your mindset.
  • Find someone you can talk to. This could be a professional person, a good friend or relative.
  • Have a good laugh! Laughter is a great way to reduce stress and worry. Medically, laughter has been related to exercise, in that it releases feel-good chemicals in your body.

Emotional Health

Whatever society or family you’ve been born into, there’s a high chance that you were not taught how to feel your emotions or how to express them in safe and healthy ways. Quite often we are taught to ignore or suppress our emotions. This is not healthy and can sometimes cause illness.

Here are some ways to look after your emotional health:

  • Join a supportive men’s group. (If you’re in London, I recommend this one.)
  • Put on some music or a film that you know makes you feel emotional and allow yourself to have a damn good cry. Notice how good you feel afterwards.
  • When feelings come up that feel uncomfortable, see if you can relax, take some deep breaths and just allow yourself to feel whatever is there. It might help to allow your body to move as the feelings come up and out.
  • Have a good laugh – see above in the Mental Health section!
  • Get a pet! Studies show that people who have a pet at home have lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol and better overall health. Dogs in particular are known for being creatures of unconditional love and joy.

Spiritual Health

Spiritual health is a very individual thing. For some people it’s about feeling connected to Divine Intelligence, Source, the Universe, a higher knowing or greater good. For some people it’s about finding meaning and purpose in life. For others it’s about feeling compassion, love and joy in their lives. Often it is a blend of all or some of these things.

Here are some ways to nurture your spiritual health:

  • Learn meditation or attend a mindfulness class.
  • Spend some time out in nature – in a beautiful forest, by the sea, near mountains, whatever fills up your soul.
  • Figure out what makes your soul sing and do more of that.
  • Get creative – paint, draw, sing, write, dance, cook.
  • Volunteer somewhere that feels good to you.
  • Spend time enjoying a beautiful sunrise or sunset.
  • Learn how to play a musical instrument.
  • Let go of the past – it is no longer here. Be in the present moment.
  • Keep a gratitude journal.
  • Go on an adventure.
  • Travel to new places.
  • Step outside your comfort zone.
  • Do something kind or generous for another person.
  • Move your body! Dance, walk, go to an exercise class or whatever gets you moving.
  • Create a garden, grow your own plants or bring flowers into your home.
  • Have a big, deep belly laugh!
  • Notice beauty all around you.

Kiss your lover slowly, sensually, as if it was the first time. Allow yourself to feel really open, vulnerable and in love.

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Read excerpts from the ‘A Word About Erectile Dysfunction’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


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What people are saying about the Transform Your Sex Life Series:

‘Within two weeks of using Rebecca’s ebook I was able to have penetrative sex for the first time in my life – thank you so much Rebecca!!‘ Dan, 35

‘…the exercises are incredibly easy and empowering. Since starting, I’ve noticed two results – my erections are stronger, and an increase in the erotic “tingling” even when not erect.’ Kevin, 54

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Jul 222015
 

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Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

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Everyone’s experiences of E.D. will be different. Some men will notice improvements in their erection after doing [the exercises in the book] just once or twice. Most men will need to repeat the processes a few times.

It’s really important to support your healing journey in other ways too. Your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health are crucial to your overall sexual empowerment. Here are some ways you can support your health on these other levels. You’ll notice that many of the suggestions overlap and that’s because many of these suggestions are good for you on more than one level.

Physical Health

How you feel in your body and about your body have a huge impact on your ability to get and maintain your erection. If you feel lethargic, low on energy, bloated, uncomfortable in your body and so on, you might find it difficult to get or maintain your erection.

Here are some suggestions for looking after your physical health:

  1. Pay attention to what you eat

There is no one correct way to eat, regardless of what the latest diet trends might tell you. Everyone is different and different styles of eating work for different people. You probably already know what works for you and what doesn’t.

Start listening to your body. If you tune in and listen it will start to give you an indication of what it likes and can use in a healthy way, and what it doesn’t like and has difficulty processing. A really simple rule of thumb is to eat food that is as close to it’s natural state as possible and although it may sound boring, a balanced diet that considers moderation.

Healthy eating tips

  • Eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg.
  • Eat as organically as you can afford to.
  • Drink plenty of water. Again, the amount you need will depend on your lifestyle, but 2-3 litres a day is a good guideline.
  • TOP TIP – Cut out all processed foods and sugar! There’s just no arguing that processed foods and sugar are not good for your health. High amounts of sugar and salt are often hidden in processed foods. Cutting these out will make an enormous difference to your overall health, including your sexual health.
  1. Get some exercise

I used to get fed up of ‘healthy types’ spouting on about exercise. It made the rebel in me want to sit on the sofa even more. However, after an illness that kicked my butt, it was actually exercise that helped me get on the road to recovery on all levels. Guess those ‘healthy types’ were right.

Amongst other things, regular exercise helps keep the body’s systems regulated. I can’t overemphasize how important exercise is to your overall health, including your sexual health. Recent studies have shown that just a few minutes of exercise a day can help with all kinds of complaints such as backache and headaches as well as depression, low energy and much more.

Benefits of regular exercise, especially for E.D. includes:

  • Getting more blood flow around the body, including to the genitals
  • Getting more oxygen and nutrients flowing around the body, including to the
  • Clearing toxins and waste more effectively from tissues and cells
  • Boosts the immune system and metabolism
  • Building healthy muscle and losing unhealthy fat
  • More energy and stamina
  • Mental clarity and focus
  • Much more relaxed in hips and joints
  • General better health overall

The best thing for keeping up with regular exercise is to find two or three things that you enjoy and change them up to keep you motivated.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Go for a 10-minute walk once a day. Each week add 5 more minutes to your walk. You could walk around the block or go to a local park or track. Whatever helps motivate you! This one thing alone can change your life.
  • Get an exercise DVD that you can do in the privacy of your own home.
  • Join a gym and learn how to use the machines or weights
  • Find a weekend sports team to join – football, basketball, hockey – whatever sounds like fun!
  • Find a partner and play racquetball, tennis or other partnered sports you like.
  • Go to a yoga or Pilates class. These are excellent for keeping your body strong and supple.
  • Go dancing or take a dance class.
  • If you sit at a desk for work, get up and stretch or move around for 5-10 minutes in every hour.
  1. Other important tips for physical health
  • Reduce your caffeine intake. There have been articles circulating recently saying that two cups of coffee a day could help with E.D. Personally I think that’s a really bad idea. While that much caffeine might help you in the short term, in the long term it could have major drawbacks to your health.
  • Reduce your alcohol intake. This will not only help you with your overall health and E.D., but will also help to enhance intimacy and pleasure.

Stop smoking. Seriously. It has been well documented that men who smoke have a higher risk of E.D. Smoking greatly reduces the circulation to your genitals and you need that blood and oxygen flow to help you get an erection. Even as few as one or two cigarettes a day can reduce your chances of getting a good erection.

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If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Jul 152015
 

Empowering Your Erection

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares excerpts from her digital program for men who want to Empower Their Erections – The Transform Your Sex Life Series Program: Empowering Your Erection

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Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>

When we don’t see the signs or listen our intuition, then our bodies will start to send signals such as an ache here or a pain there. If we continue not to listen then the body will escalate its attempt to get our attention – a pulled muscle, a back spasm, or a bigger injury, for example. If we still don’t listen the messages get louder and louder. This can result in bigger, more noticeable health issues or illnesses such as ‘dysfunctions’ of the body, cancer, adrenal exhaustion, etc.

Erectile dysfunction might be the first signal your body has sent you or part of a chain of ‘messages’ that started somewhere else in your body. When you start to pay attention to the signals your body is sending you, and see what they are trying to tell you, then you can bring healing and transformation to the situation.

E.D. could be a sign of

  • Shame or fear around sexuality (that was there before the E.D.)
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of being vulnerable
  • Fear of penetration
  • Shame passed down from the family around sexuality
  • Shame passed down from religion, the media and other outside authorities
  • Fear and shame of expressing your sexuality in a particular way
  • Fear of getting your partner pregnant
  • Shame and guilt around wanting to penetrate
  • Shame and guilt around not wanting to penetrate
  • Shame around wanting to be penetrated
  • Having been told you’re not good enough – and believing it or taking the message in to your body
  • Having received negative messages about your body or your penis
  • Fear of failure
  • Shock or trauma to the body
  • Excessive masturbation
  • Over use of porn
  • Worry or concern around sexual ‘performance’
  • Having had your boundaries crossed – sexually or otherwise
  • Feeling disempowered in your life generally
  • Feeling bored or ‘not aroused’ by life
  • Not being fully present in the moment
  • Being stuck in your head
  • Being exhausted
  • Being focussed on other things
  • Not feeling at ease in your body or with your penis
  • Gender issues

One or more of these things might apply to you. Or you might have your own unique reasons for experiencing E.D. The very good news is that healing and transformation are absolutely possible.

For many men this will mean being able to get some or all of your erection back. For some men it will mean learning how to be a magnificent lover whether you have a hard-on or not. Although society would tell you otherwise, it is not essential to have an erection to have amazing sex. Just taking the pressure off your cock to ‘perform’ and learning more about being an amazing lover will help!

The Transform Your Sex Life workbook takes you through four processes to get you back on the road to being, expressing and fully enjoying your sexuality, your sexual self. Each section has an audio recording to help and support you as you work your way through the book.

 You are totally amazing and on your way to being your best, most liberated sexual self ever!

Read Part 1 here>>>> 

Read excerpts from the ‘Maintaining Your Erection For Life’ chapter here: Part 1>>>>, Part 2>>>>


Empower Your Erection


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RebeccaLowrieRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!