Fuck Valentine's Day: Practice Self Love Instead

Fuck Valentine’s Day: Practice Self Love Instead

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about the importance of self-love and developing self-love practices. Fuck Valentine’s Day. What a crazy idea! A greeting card company makes up a holiday so that people in relationships feel pressured to buy things for each other and people who are not in relationships feel isolated or shit about themselves. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, the person you should be celebrating love with is yourself. Without proper self-love in place, there is no other relationship. No other sustainable relationship. Self-love is the foundation for any other relationship. Self-love is the garden bed

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What if...

What if…

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, imagines a world in which, on a soul level, we are trying to wake ourselves up. On the morning of 9th November, 2016 we woke to the news that Donald Trump had been elected 45th President of the United States. I witnessed outpourings of fear on my Facebook timeline. Understandably many people were shocked, and fearing for their safety. Rather than adding fuel to the fear, I wanted to attempt to see the bigger picture. What, on a soul level, might be going on? How could we move forward with open hearts rather than the

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A Supermoon Sex Ritual For Clearing And Healing

A Supermoon Sex Ritual For Clearing And Healing

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares her Supermoon Sex Ritual for clearing anything which no longer serves you. Yesterday was a rare Hunter’s Supermoon in the UK. A Hunter’s moon is one that rises soon after sundown, historically allowing hunters and farmers to work a bit longer by moonlight. A Supermoon is a full moon which occurs when the moon is near (within 90 per cent of) its closest approach to Earth in a given orbit. Its close proximity makes the pull and magic of the moon even stronger than usual. I posted the photo you see here on Instagram and

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Your Sex Life Doesn't Exist In A Vacuum [Video]

Your Sex Life Doesn’t Exist In A Vacuum [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, explores the idea that your sex life doesn’t exist in a vacuum, it sits in the container of your life. Our sex life doesn’t exist outside the realms of our daily life and vice versa. In order to truly, fully explore who we are as sexual beings, we also have to look at and address other areas of our lives. Our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual selves are all interlinked. Our sexual self is the thread that runs through all of these areas. If you follow me on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, you’ll know that

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Nurturing Yourself At The End Of A Tricky Day [Video]

Nurturing Yourself At The End Of A Tricky Day [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about doing something to nurture yourself if you’ve had a tricky day! It can be really easy to let a tricky or difficult day get the better of you and throw you off centre. It can put you in a huff, shift your otherwise healthy perspective and generally make you feel shit! If that’s not somehow kept in check it can roll over into the next day… and the next… and the next. If it happens often it can have a knock on effect to our health, our relationships and our libido. Rather than

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Bring More Pleasure To Your Week! [Video]

Bring More Pleasure To Your Week! [Video]

 Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how to bring more pleasure to your week. Earlier today I was speaking with a friend who was dreading the start of the work week and was already looking ahead to the weekend yet to come. He was saying how the week was full of busyness and challenges and no pleasure. I got to thinking about how we can bring pleasure to our week, to our days, no matter what is going on. When we get really present to each moment, pleasure is there to be had, to be experienced. One of the

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Cultivating Intimacy

Cultivating Intimacy

Rebecca specialises in men’s sexuality and works with individuals and couples to help them expand their ideas and experiences of sexuality. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sexuality into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful! If you’re inspired and would like to book a Sexual Alchemy session, email Rebecca at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!  

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Pondering The Words We Use For Genitals And Sexuality [Video]

Pondering The Words We Use For Genitals And Sexuality [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, ponders the words we use for genitals and sexuality. Woke up this morning thinking about how the words we use for our genitals are also used as swear words. And how we use words like naughty, dirty and filthy are used to mean someone who is very sexual or acts that are considered less than vanilla or mainstream. How we language ourselves and our world is very important. Our words have energy and cast spells. Using words that have a negative connotation or are derogatory to describe our bodies and our sexuality is troublesome to

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The Importance Of How You Welcome Someone [Video]

The Importance Of How You Welcome Someone [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about the importance of how you welcome someone to be intimate with you. Whether you’re chatting with a view to a date, asking for business or trying to seduce someone, how you welcome them will set the tone for what is to follow. This might be in an initial email, a message on a dating app or meeting a person at a party. How you welcome someone doesn’t apply just the first time you have contact either. It applies each time you meet up with someone or start a conversation with someone. In this video,

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Who Is Your True Sexual Self? [Video]

Who Is Your True Sexual Self? [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, ponders questions about who we are as sexual beings. Most of us have been conditioned to believe there is a right or wrong around sexuality, sexual expression and who we are as sexual beings. However, apart from consent, that is not true. Assuming consent is in place, there is no inherent right or wrong way to be sexual, to express your sexuality. There is no inherent way to enjoy pleasure and intimacy. Most cultures, religions, societies, families, etc have created rules and regulations, social mores and laws about what is and isn’t ok. We try

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Speaking Your Truth From Your Heart [Video]

Speaking Your Truth From Your Heart [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie shares her new #MeditationMonday video, Speaking Your Truth From Your Heart Welcome to #MeditationMondays #4, Speaking Your Truth From Your Heart. This particular mediation was inspired by someone who commented on a previous #MediationMonday video, asking how to connect to your heart so that you can speak your truth, even in a difficult situation. This mediation is good for you if You need to have a difficult conversation You struggle to stay connected to your heart when speaking your truth You want to feel empowered to say what needs to be said I really hope you enjoy it.

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Expanding Your Heart With Gratitude [Video]

Expanding Your Heart With Gratitude [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie shares her new #MeditationMondays video, Expanding Your Heart With Gratitude. I have a regular, daily gratitude practice and find it immensely useful in so many ways. Most days I write my gratitudes down in a journal. Sometimes I say them out loud to myself or with my partner. In this video, you are guided to use your breath to connect with the feeling of gratitude and to use that to connect to, open and expand your heart. This is good for you for many reasons. Gratitude raises our vibration and helps us to stay aligned with ‘who-we-really-are’, beyond just

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Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World  [Video]

Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie shares her new #MeditationMondays video, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World. Welcome to #MeditationMondays #2, Using Your Senses To Be Aware Of Your World. In this meditation you are guided to tune in to five of your senses; touch, sound, smell, taste and sight. Relax and unwind as you go on a journey to experience your world, your surroundings, just as they are, in the present moment. This meditation is good for you if you want to Practice being more present Fine tune your senses Be guided and held as you relax Experience the sensuality

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Because Of Our Wisdom

Because Of Our Wisdom

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, reads the poem ‘Because Of Our Wisdom’ by Hafiz on Anchor.fm. I discovered the poetry of Hafiz about 10 years ago, right around the same time I started exploring and working with conscious sexuality. Hafiz was a 14th century Persian poet, writer, mystic and spiritual teacher. His writings explore love, life and intimacy, in particular with intimacy with the Divine. His beautiful, thought-provoking poetry has been known to inspire other writers such as Emerson, Nietzsche and apparently even Arthur Conan Doyle. I have been trying out the new Anchor.fm app for the last couple of

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#MeditationMondays #1  [Video]

#MeditationMondays #1 [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie starts a new video meditation series called #MeditationMondays and invites you to take part. I was recently having a conversation with a friend about the different ways we both meditate and how useful we both find it. My favourite way to meditate is in the sauna! Since I can’t get there as often as I’d like, I also have other ways that I like to meditate. Sometimes I do it sitting still, other times I do it as a walking meditation, either in my suburban neighbourhood or in the woods. Occasionally I’ll make the ‘mundane’ into a meditation.

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Kindness And Compassion For Rekindling Intimacy [Video]

Kindness And Compassion For Rekindling Intimacy [Video]

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about how kindness and compassion can open your heart and bring back lost intimacy. I recently had a client who told me that he and his wife had grown apart over the years and that for a long time he had noticed that he was feeling quite ‘hard-hearted’ towards her. Their intimacy had dried up, there was little to no affection any more and he wanted to find a way to turn things around. After he told me a bit about their relationship, what he loved and what he missed, we discussed ways that

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What Do Women And Men Really Want In The Bedroom?

What Do Women And Men Really Want In The Bedroom?

Rebecca Lowrie explores the question, What do women and men really want in the bedroom and in relationships? I recently put out a question on social media, asking people what was the single most challenging thing they were experiencing in their lives and in their sex lives. I had a variety of responses, however one thing stood out. Both men and women were asking… ‘What do men and women want – both in the bedroom and in relationships?’ It’s a question many of my clients have asked me over the years so I want to take a closer look. Over

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Toltec Wisdom: Improve Your Life & Your Sex Life

Toltec Wisdom: Improve Your Life & Your Sex Life

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares how to improve your life and your sex life using ancient Toltec wisdom from the book, The Four Agreements. One of the things I’m passionate about is that our sex lives don’t exist in a vacuum, they exist within the context of our lives. Sounds obvious, but I sometimes get clients who think that I can show them a magic way to have an amazing sex life without addressing other areas of their lives. I will be writing more on this in the coming months. Today I want to share with you a fantastic

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