May 272015
 

Mae WestNow that May is nearly over, Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, wants to know… did you celebrate National Masturbation Month? If so, how did you celebrate?

Just in case you missed it, I reported at the beginning of the month that May is National Masturbation Month over in America. Now that we’re at the end of May, I’d love to hear if you joined in the celebrations and if so, how?

I celebrated by doing some sex magick at home and by masturbating in a secluded spot in a local forest. It’s just about warm enough for that now! My partner and I also spent sensual and erotic time together sharing some mutual masturbating. Such a delicious way to be intimate with each other!

Now I’d like to hear about your masturbating adventures. Did you work some sex magick, try a new spot or masturbate with a lover? Were you conscious about your ejaculation? Did you try a new sex toy or a new way of masturbating?

Email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemsit.com and tell me how you celebrated! ;-)


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May 202015
 

How Often Should I EjaculateRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, considers the question, ‘How often should I ejaculate’ and her answer might surprise you.

Several times a week, either via email or in a session, men ask me, ‘How often should I ejaculate?’ Tricky question really. Each man is different – his body, his energy levels, his desires, what works for him. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer to this.

I think it’s much more important to ask better questions. How about these:

  • Where is my awareness, my consciousness when I ejaculate?
  • What am I focusing on or thinking about when I ejaculate?
  • What ‘seeds’ do I want to plant in my life?
  • What ideas do I want to fertilize in my life?
  • Am I ejaculating with presence or shame?
  • Am I really seeking orgasm rather than ejaculation?
  • What are my needs and desires right now?
  • How does my body feel?
  • What else could I do with all this arousal?
  • How does this ejaculation serve me today?
  • What do I want in this moment?

Rather than focusing on how often one ejaculates, how about focusing on the quality and consciousness of the ejaculation?

Being conscious about your ejaculation, whenever it happens, has the potential to be life-changing. It can bring more pleasure, more expansion, more presence, more connection and intimacy. It has the potential to help you break free from your addiction to immediate gratification, which ultimately leaves you unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

It is a hugely important step in a man’s journey to realize that mindlessly quenching desire with an unconscious ejaculation is not going to lead to the feeling he ultimately desires.

Every man instinctively knows that his sexual energy, his arousal, has the capacity to connect him to something deeper, to his own soul, to a higher truth.

I know that sometimes you’re not looking to ‘connect to the Infinite Oneness’, or to have a ‘mega cosmic experience’, you just want help to fall asleep or a little cheeky pleasure in the shower. That’s fantastic! And you can still bring your consciousness to the experience. You can still choose what you’re thinking about or what you’re focusing on as you ejaculate. You can still bring your full presence and awareness to your experience.

Sexual energy is very powerful stuff. It creates life after all! So when you are aroused and thinking about something, you are sending energy to the thing you are thinking about. Rather than sending out this magnificent energy haphazardly, why not harness it for your own growth and expansion?

Here are some things you can do to get more conscious about your ejaculation:

  1. Get present – learn to listen to your body, its needs and desires.
  2. Be honest with yourself about what you’re choosing.
  3. Learn how to separate orgasm and ejaculation – so you have more choice.
  4. Learn how to surrender to and ride the waves of arousal and pleasure rather than tense up and chase the ejaculation.
  5. Learn how to practice ejaculation as a spiritual experience.
  6. Learn how to use your ejaculation for magick and ritual.
  7. Let go of shame around your cum/semen/ejaculate. It is not a ‘mess’ or something to apologize for as I have heard so often from men. It is the sacred and divine nectar of life!
  8. Be aware that what you’re thinking about or focusing on when you ejaculate becomes energized and choose wisely.
  9. Learn and practice new ways to be with your arousal so that ejaculation is a choice rather than inevitable.
  10. Come for a session and let’s explore your options together.

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If you’d like to explore bringing more consciousness to your ejaculation, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and let me know. I look forward to hearing from you!

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May 132015
 

8 essential tipsRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, helps you transform your sex life by sharing her 8 essential tips for being a much better lover.

Almost every day I get emails from people, men in particular, asking me if I can help them be better lovers. Often they assume that means I will show them how to touch this or lick that. I could, and sometimes do teach them those things. However, there are some much more important things to being a fabulous lover. Here are my 8 essential tips for being a much better lover…

1. Get present! This is the ultimate secret to being an amazing lover. Even if you know all the ‘methods and techniques’ in the world, if you aren’t present in the experience, present in your touch, fully present in the moment, then you will be a mediocre lover and have unfulfilling, superficial sexual experiences.

Being present means not thinking about other things like work, what you have to do later or wondering if you are doing it ‘right’, and instead having all of your attention and awareness on what is happening in front of you. Being fully present means bringing all of yourself to the moment – the parts you love about yourself and the parts you could love a bit more. Being fully present means allowing someone to really see you. Being fully present can take time to practice and cultivate. Start practicing it now and watch your sex life transform.

2. Look into each other’s eyes. It’s absolutely true that the eyes are the windows to the soul. If you want your sexual experiences to be out of this world, deeply fulfilling and soul expanding then get fully present and look into your partner’s eyes. Allow them to really see all of you, while at the same time you are witnessing their full true self.

Open your heart and see them with unconditional love, and allow yourself to be fully seen. It requires deep trust and vulnerability, acceptance and love, which will sky rocket your sexual experiences into cosmic realms of pleasure and connection.

3. Cultivate good, clear communication. This is absolutely essential to being an amazing lover. Don’t assume you know what your partner is thinking or that they know what you are thinking. Speak your truth, with love and care, and own your ‘stuff’. Learn to ask for what you want without expectation that your partner must fill your needs.

Share your sexual dreams and fantasies with each other. If you hold it in you may energetically shut a part of yourself off and that will decrease intimacy. Even if you aren’t in to each other’s fantasies, you will have learned something new about your partner. You will know them a bit better, and that will bring you closer together.

Develop good communication skills outside of the bedroom too. This keeps the air clear between you and strengthens trust which leads to better, more fulfilling sexual experiences.

4. Don’t be afraid to try new things. That might mean a new position, a new place, a sex toy or a fun fantasy. It could even mean going to a dance class, trying a kink workshop or taking singing lessons. At worst you’ll just figure out something you don’t like and you don’t have to repeat it. At best you’ll have a great time, increase intimacy and expand your sexual possibilities and experiences.

5. Play! Sex is different things at different times. Sometimes it is deeply emotional, healing and transformational. Sometimes it is wild, ecstatic and cosmic. Other times it is funny, silly and playful. Get out of your head and into your body. Don’t worry about what you look like or if you’re doing it right. Don’t try to control your beautiful orgasm face or the sounds that surge from your body as pleasure takes over. Let sex be fun! Have a playful attitude, relax and just enjoy connecting with your sexual self and your partner.

6. DO NOT try to impress or ‘perform’! ‘Sex is not something you do, it’s something you allow’. Sex and intimacy are about being fully present with your sexual self, allowing pleasure, being connected to your body, to your heart and sometimes to a partner and the whole cosmos. If you are trying to impress your lover or perform some act you’ve read about, chances are you aren’t being present.

7. Be yourself. Hiding your true self will never lead to actual intimacy. As one of my teachers used to say, 8 Essential Tips for Being a Much Better Lover‘Intimacy is in-to-me-see’. Pretending to be something or someone you’re not will not lead to a fulfilling or positive sexual experience. Bring as much of your full true self as you can to each unfolding moment. That is where true intimacy is and ultimately it is intimacy that we are looking for in sex. Be yourself and the rest will flow naturally.

8. Cultivate self-love. It is vitally important that you are able to love yourself, accept yourself and care for yourself in order to be a great lover. Explore ways to nurture and nourish your soul and your sexual self.

If you aren’t filling up your own cup, as it were, then you are coming as an empty vessel to a relationship or connection, hoping that they will fill you up. Even if you do find someone who will do that for a time, it weakens your ability to do it for yourself and if they leave or change their mind you are in trouble.

Find out what sustains you, what makes you come alive and do lots of that. Be the person you’d love to have as a lover or partner. Bring your abundant, nourished and enlivened self to the bedroom and experience first hand how that makes you a fantastic, compassionate, hot and much better lover.


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If you’d like to explore these 8 essential tips to being a much better lover, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and let me know. I look forward to hearing from you!

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May 082015
 

www.thesexualalchemist.comRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, embraces her life’s mission to help you transform your sexuality and is busy creating exciting new offerings for you!

For the last 9 or 10 years I’ve been helping people transform their sex lives through private sessions and group workshops. In recent years I’ve added Skype sessionsCuddle Sessions and the Empowering Your Erection Program to my offerings.

For a very brief time, I even tried to give it all up, to stop working with sexuality. But the Universe had other plans for me and I have since embraced my mission for this lifetime:

To help eradicate fear, shame and guilt around sexuality and to help people transform their sexuality in order to be totally empowered in the rest of their lives.

Recently, after a life-changing workshop with Dr John Demartini, I have been thinking about how I can really make a difference to humanity. How can I serve the most people and help them to transform, heal, grow and expand? How can I serve the evolution of humanity by helping to change society’s shame and taboos around sexuality?

As I feel into these questions, it would seem that Divine Inspiration is guiding me. I’ve been downloading tons of ideas and am busy busy busy creating some spectacular new offerings for you! I don’t want to reveal what is coming just yet, so you’ll just have to watch this space or sign up for updates via my newsletter.

In the meantime, I’d love to hear about what you feel would help you transform your sexuality? What would revolutionize your connection to your sexual self? What would help you expand and grow as a sexual being? What issues and problems would you like to transform, heal or address? If you feel drawn to, drop me an email and tell me what you need to feel fully empowered as a sexual being.

I look forward to hearing from you and can’t wait to reveal my new offerings to you in the coming months.


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May 062015
 

masturbationIt’s National Masturbation Month over in America and Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, thinks we should all join in!

Over in America, May is celebrated as National Masturbation Month. I reckon we Brits, and people of all nationalities should be jumping on the bandwagon and celebrating too!

National Masturbation Month began as a response to the unjust firing of U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders in 1994. At the United Nations World AIDS Day that year, she had answered an audience member’s question about masturbation by saying that she thought it was a ‘part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught’.

Unfortunately she was forced to resign over her comment. A popular sextoy shop in San Francisco thought this was totally unjust and decided to take action. In 1995 they declared May to be National Masturbation Month and it has been running ever since.

National Masturbation Month aims to raise awareness that masturbation (self-pleasuring, wanking, etc) is a perfectly normal, healthy and safe way to express your sexuality. It not only feels great, but has lots of positive benefits too. It’s great for your overall health, boosts your energy and immune system, can help you sleep and can even help you be a better lover! Masturbation also runs no risks of STI’s or pregnancy so is super duper safe. Make sure that when you are masturbating, you are doing so with consciousness and awareness, rather than with shame or guilt.

Give yourself permission, relax, and take your pleasure in your own hands this month.

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If you’re inspired and would like to experience your own Sexual Alchemy session, then email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

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RebeccaLowrieRebecca works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!