Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares what she believes makes a ‘Sacred Relationship’.
I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and sacred.
What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after seven years together, do we still feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred Relationship?
Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:
Consciousness – Our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.
Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.
Owning our ‘stuff’ – So often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past with each other.
Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.
Commitment – We take time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily basis. Quality not quantity is important here.
Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.
Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each fuels and nourishes the other.
Tantra has taught me all of these things and more. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you either on your own or with your partner.
If you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at email@example.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!
Rebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!