Dec 152012
 

Sacred Relationship

Rebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, shares what she believes makes a ‘Sacred Relationship’.

I’d always suspected that loving, healing, nourishing, sexy, deeply intimate relationships were possible. Instinctively I knew that ‘relationship’ had the potential to be a powerful container for divine alchemy – the transformation of ‘all that doesn’t serve you’ into something new, exquisite and sacred.

What makes our relationship great – what makes it work? Why, after seven years together, do we still feel the pleasure, joy and deliciousness that we felt at the beginning? What is essential for Sacred Relationship?

Here are some of the key elements that keep our sacred relationship working:

Consciousness – Our relationship is valuable and precious to us. We are aware of what we’re creating, for the present moment and for the future. We consciously nurture and feed our relationship, keeping it vibrant, healthy, alive and full of love.

Communication – Clear, open, honest communication is vital in any relationship. Don’t expect the other to read your mind. We voice things as they come up, no matter how small they might seem, to keep the air clear. We speak our truth and listen with our full attention. We sometimes hear things through the filter of our ‘stuff’ so if in doubt, we take time to clarify what’s been said.

Owning our ‘stuff’ – So often problems that occur in a relationship happen because we act or react to a situation based on our experiences of the past. We want to blame someone else, not take responsibility for ourselves, our journeys, our vulnerability. Being clear about what is ‘my stuff’ and what is ‘your stuff’ can sometimes feel edgy but is the only way to be in the present, not in the past with each other.

Patience and compassion – with ourselves and each other.

Commitment – We take time to consciously connect with each other, no matter how brief, on a daily basis. Quality not quantity is important here.

Willingness – to be vulnerable, to spend time, to commit to a higher quality of relationship, to listen to each other, to transform, to grow, to try something new if the old no longer serves you, to move through fear, to stand in the fiery furnaces of ‘relationship’ and let it transform you.

Opening – to the beautiful flow of love, sex and divinity, allowing them to blend together so that each fuels and nourishes the other.

Being present.

Courage.

Tantra has taught me all of these things and more. It has made my Sacred Relationship with Todd possible and is what keeps it dynamic and flourishing. It would be an honour to share some of this with you either on your own or with your partner.

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If you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Dec 152012
 

Sex, love andRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist talks about the importance and pleasure of connecting sex, love and divinity.

In many ways, tantra saved my life. Really. My sexual energy was spiraling out of control and I didn’t know what to do with such an abundance of it. It was sort of like having the keys to a Ferrari and not knowing how to drive. My relationships had either been full of love or full of sex but I hadn’t quite managed to have both at the same time.

Then I discovered tantra – not the tantra I’d read about in books, but real, experiential, live-as-it-happens tantra. I learned that, although raw, primal sexual energy feels really good, when it is allowed to blend and mix with the energy of the heart, with love, it becomes something entirely different and utterly amazing. I don’t mean this in any ‘goody-two shoes’ kind of way, I mean it in the ‘knock your socks off, didn’t know this was possible’ kind of way.

If you think about it, love and sex are two of the most potent energies we have flowing through us. They are often said to be what makes the world go round. Now imagine learning to consciously combine these two powerful energies – whether to use when you’re being sexual or just living your everyday life – and wow! Now take that one step further and allow this heady mixture to fuel your connection to Source, the Universe, Divinity and ‘holy orgasm batman’, what a recipe for bliss, ecstasy!

This is where tantra’s reputation for mind-blowing sex comes from. It’s not about specific ‘techniques and methods’ for touching the clitoris or how to give the best blowjobs. It’s about getting present and connecting our sexual energy to our hearts and the Universe.

When these three energies begin to connect and flow freely, a whole new world of possibilities opens up. As you practice consciously connecting sexual energy and love, you’ll come to find that just allowing love to flow will start to fuel your arousal. My partner has come to affectionately call this his ‘love hard-on’. And there’s more… you can allow your sexual energy to nourish, heal and open your heart when it is feeling shut down and protected.

If that’s not enough, the cherry on the cake is union with divinity. (Union with divinity!) When the blend of sexual energy and love is allowed to travel up through your body, and out through the top of your head you experience your connection to the Universe, to the All-That-Is.

In this place you are truly free, liberated from ‘ego’, the ‘self’. The mixture of sexual energy and love is the rocket fuel that blasts you into this cosmic realm. Making love (with yourself or a Beloved) from this connected, flowing space is literally ‘out of this world’.

I could have carried on having relationships that were full of love or full of sex, where the two never met. But something in me instinctively knew there was more. My relationship is deeper, fuller and more intimate because of it. I’m so grateful to have discovered tantra. It has changed my life in every way and now I am blessed to be able to share it through my work. I look forward to meeting you along the path.

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If you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me atrebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Dec 152012
 

TheSexualAlchemist.com
Sexual Alchemist & conscious sexuality practitioner Rebecca Lowrie talks about how being truly present makes sex deeply intimate, and totally mind-blowing!

It happened in a phone shop on a normal high street in north London. I was waiting for my phone to be returned when the young man working in the shop asked me what I did for a living. I never know quite how to answer that question and various answers usually pop out of my mouth. ‘I teach sacred sexuality’, I told him. ‘Oh,’ he said.

I could almost hear the cogs of his brain turning. ‘So what could you teach me?’ he asked. Feeling it to be a genuine request, I asked him if he wanted to learn how to have the most mind-blowing sex ever. ‘Of course!’ he said, laughing a little nervously. Several other assistants and a customer were now paying attention. ‘Come here,’ I said. He came and stood in front of me, less than a foot away. ‘Relax… breathe… now bring yourself fully into this moment and look into my eyes’. He did exactly as I instructed and after about five seconds exclaimed, ‘Wow, ohmygod, what did you just do? That was amazing! AMAZING!’ He was ecstatic. All I did was request his full presence and offer him mine back. It’s that simple really. He was still muttering happily to himself when I left.

Being present is one of the most important, useful, joyful, mind-blowing things I’ve learned from my journey through tantra. Being really present in each and every moment is all there really is and yet we usually have our attention in the past or future.

Most of us are taught at a very early age how to distract ourselves. A friend once told me about a trip to a funfair where each time she got on a ride, her friend would say to her, ‘What are we going on next?’ She didn’t get to enjoy the ride she was actually on because her attention was constantly being drawn to the future. We all do this in one way or another. We reminisce about the past or worry about tomorrow, but rarely take time to just be where we are.

When we get really, truly present, the world changes completely! When I allow myself to be fully present with my partner, he is new and different in each and every moment! What a delight! Our relationship, our love making never gets old or stale because all the old moments are gone, dead. Here we are in this brand new moment that didn’t exist before, oh, and here’s another one. Who is this amazing man here with me right now, and right now and right now? It’s so exciting! Every time we touch, kiss, caress is like the first time!

Try this at home: (either with your Beloved or as a solo practice looking into your own eyes in a mirror) Sit quietly with your Beloved and softly, gently, look into each other’s eyes. Let your thoughts subside and allow yourself to be fully present with whatever ‘is’ in that moment and each new moment as it unfolds. Bring your awareness to your heart and allow love to flow – in and out. Behold your Beloved as they are in this instant. In this shared space, everything is fresh and new and anything is possible. In the unpredictability of each second, the magnitude of each breath, and the vitality of each moment, your passion for each other can be constantly rediscovered. If you regularly take the time to be present with yourself and with your Beloved, your ever-evolving selves will fill a lifetime with love, desire and deep intimacy.

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Empower Your ErectionIf you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at rebecca@thesexualalchemist.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!

Dec 152012
 

TheSexualAlchemist.comRebecca Lowrie, The Sexual Alchemist, talks about her ‘tantric beginnings’, the beginning of her journey through tantra and conscious sexuality.

Something deep inside me stirred when I first heard about Tantra. Something ancient, something known yet unknown. It was many years after I first heard about it that I actually started to explore what it was. I bought a couple of books, read a bit, tried to get a couple of boyfriends to try things out with me. Mostly it remained a mystery.

Many years ago, I was at a festival and heard that someone was running a two-hour ‘Intro to Tantra’ workshop. As I meandered across the field to the tent where the workshop was being held, I noticed people running past me, quickly – lots of them. Suddenly I realised that they were all heading towards this workshop. Two eye-opening hours later, every single person in the workshop was high on love and feeling great! I saw these people, the looks on their faces and looked at the teacher. I knew right there and then that I was destined to walk a similar path.

My journey through tantra, kink and other forms of sacred sexuality over the following years has been amazing, beautiful, terrifying, and truly life changing. I’ve learned to connect my spirituality to my heart and my sexuality. I’ve learned to be vulnerable, open and present. I’ve laughed, cried, shouted, bashed cushions and danced naked in the rain. I’ve seen beautiful souls travelling into the depths of their being and allowed them to see me.

It is impossible to fully capture the essence of Tantra with words alone. It is at once a mystical, spiritual path, a practical science and a way of life. Tantra teaches us tools for transformation, how to recognise ourselves as the unconditional love that we are and how to turn our everyday lives into experiences of divinity.

One aspect of tantra is that it seeks to unite the masculine and feminine energies within each of us as a path to union with the divine. Often in the west this is mistaken for meaning that it must be practiced between a man and a woman. This is absolutely not true! Tantric techniques and methods can be done as internal practices with the self, or externally with a partner of any gender.

One of the most important things I’ve learned through tantra is how to be present. Most of the time we are taught how to distract ourselves rather than how to engage in the moment. Learning to bring your awareness into every moment will help you to experience more pleasure and bliss than you ever knew possible in every area of your life including your relationships, intimacy and sexuality.

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Sacred Relationship>>>>


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If you’d like to book a session or find out more, please email me at rebecca@rebeccalowrie.com and tell me what you’re interested in. I look forward to hearing from you!

RebeccaLowrieRebecca Lowrie works with individuals and couples to help them have better sex lives. Using various forms of conscious sexuality, including tantra and conscious kink, Rebecca can help you transform your sex life into something deliciously juicy, delightfully fun and ecstatically blissful!